Episode 589: Dr. Scott Lyons on Signs That Preaching and Leadership Have Become Addictions, How To Deal with Toxic Bosses and Coworkers, and Practical Strategies to Deal with Other People’s Drama

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Episode 589: Dr. Scott Lyons on Signs That Preaching and Leadership Have Become Addictions, How To Deal with Toxic Bosses and Coworkers, and Practical Strategies to Deal with Other People’s Drama

Clinical psychologist Dr. Scott Lyons talks about how to tell whether preaching and leadership have become addictions, how to deal with toxic bosses and co-workers, and offers multiple practical strategies to deal with other peoples’ drama.

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An addiction is often about filling a void. - Dr. Scott Lyons Click To Tweet Part of what happens when you have this history of pervasive stress or trauma in your life is that you become more attuned to your own negative bias. - Dr. Scott Lyons Click To Tweet You are more likely to become hooked on something in the absence of belonging, the absence of a sense of connection. - Dr. Scott Lyons Click To Tweet If your attention is constantly wandering, what are you wandering to? Can you be present with another individual in another situation, or is the wandering a way of avoiding intimacy? - Dr. Scott Lyons Click To Tweet

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