7 Leadership Blind Spots That Drive Your Team Crazy

blindspotsIf you lead, you are more than aware of the incredible responsibility you have toward others.

Leadership, by definition, is not a solo sport. You’re leading others, and how you do it ultimately determines how effective you are as a leader.

It also means you need to become exceptionally self-aware of your weaknesses.

If you think about it, the leaders you’ve probably liked the least have been the least self-aware.

In my view, self-awareness is a leader’s best friend. (Here are 4 things self-aware leaders know that others don’t.)

As a shortcut, here are 7 common things leaders do that drive their team crazy. I know this because I have done the first 5 at different points in my leadership.

1. Underestimating how much work it takes

You’re in an incredible position of trust as a leader. When you say things, your team does its best to make them happen.

But some leaders are notorious for underestimating how much time a task will take.

Sometimes leaders fall into the trap of thinking they can be like God and simply speak things into being: And the leader said “Let there be a fourth weekend service” and it was so. 

Of course, the leader hasn’t properly estimated the impact this is going to have on the parking team, the guest services team, the kids ministry team, the student ministry team, the production team or the music team.

Underestimating how much work something takes can seem like an initial advantage because it makes seemingly impossible things happen.

But it can also be incredibly demotivating to your team when you significantly underestimate how much work something will take.

Often leaders are afraid to ask how much work something will take because they fear leaders will say no. If you have a good team, that’s almost never the case.

They just want to know that you know and appreciate the effort and will allocate the budget and the staffing the proposal needs. And if you don’t have enough budget or staffing, often your team will say yes anyway and make it happen. They just need your encouragement and understanding of what it will cost them.

If this describes you, next time take the time to sit down with your team and think through how much work it will take to get you there. Then plan for it.

The fix can be that simple.

2. Impulsive, emotion-based decision making

I asked my amazing assistant what I do that drives her the most crazy. This was her pick.

Yep, leaders are passionate. Even impulsive.

They are used to creating something out of nothing. Sometimes that’s good, as in Hey, why don’t we launch two campuses at once? Or hey, why don’t we start a podcast and see if anything happens?

Often, the impulsiveness and emotion are driven from a place of discontent with the status quo. That is, after all, the impetus to change.

I may be bothered by something I think needs fixing immediately. I may be discontent about a situation I think the entire team needs to address immediately.

But not all discontent is holy.

Sometimes my discontent comes from having a bad day, or being moody, or just deciding something on the spur of the moment.

And then I almost always reverse the decision the next day or the next week. Or bump what was priority #1 down to priority #32 because it just isn’t as important anymore.

That’s frustrating for people.

I’ve gotten better at this, but when my assistant senses it’s happening, she’s become great at asking “So are you serious about this or is this just how you feel in the moment?”

Often that shakes me out of the moment and I’ll say “Right…I’m probably just upset about something. Let me sleep on it.”  Or I’ll ask her what she thinks (or check with some other leaders) and they’ll tell me I’m just worked up about something and I need to relax.

Just because you’re upset about something as a leader doesn’t mean it should become the top priority of the organization.

3. Being indecisive

I’ve seen indecisive leadership sink more than a few ships.

Your job as a leader is to make decisions that make things happen.

That doesn’t mean you make decisions all by yourself. The best leaders always involve a team in their decision making.

But you still need to make a decision.

What makes decision making hard at a senior leadership level is that it’s only the toughest decisions that make it to you. All the easy decisions already got made long before they reached your desk.

And that can lead to delay.

Delay leads to paralysis.

And paralysis leads to stagnation and decline.

Delayed decision-making demotivates your team.

So make a decision, and create a process for making sure decisions get made regularly and quickly.

Sure, every once in a while you need to take a long time to make a decision. But far too many leaders use that as an excuse.

Decide.

4. Being too decisive and not valuing input

Every problem has a flip side, and the flip side of being indecisive is being too decisive.

Some leaders make instant decisions without any input from anyone else, and that is also frustrating to their teams.

I think it’s a good practice for every senior leader to be a part of something they don’t lead.

I work with a couple of organizations on the side where I’m not the senior leader or where I sit on the board. It helps me realize what it feels like to not be the senior leader.

So I know that I really appreciate it when CEOs ask for my opinion, when they value my input when they seek my counsel. Even if I disagree with their decision, I know they consulted others, and that gives me confidence in their decision.

As Andy Stanley has so aptly said, leaders who refuse to listen will eventually be surrounded by people who have nothing significant to say.

5. Creating an unsustainable pace

You can be tempted to burn the midnight oil as a leader. Most great leaders do at one time or another.

But leaders can also create an unsustainable pace for their team.

Your team feels guilty about going home long before you do. And when you’re pounding out emails at 11 p.m. and 5 a.m. 7 days a week, it makes your team feel lazy.

It also makes you look incredibly unhealthy.

I have a very strong appetite for work, but I’ve let my team know what my expectation for them is.  Just because I work long hours (on a variety of things) doesn’t mean everyone has to.

One of a leader’s chief responsibilities is to create a sustainable pace for their entire team.

6. Working too few hours

Sometimes leaders end up working too few hours.

That’s perhaps even more demotivating than working too many hours.

Always work as hard as you expect your team to work. Even harder (but see above).

Leaders who phone it in have no place in real leadership.

7. Expecting others to put in more than you’re willing to put in

Leadership requires your all.

If your organization requires donations, contribute—sacrificially.

If your organization requires volunteers—volunteer for something, even though you get paid for your staff role.

Never expect more from your team than you’re willing to personally put in.

That doesn’t mean you should always be first in and last to leave. You have to focus on roles in which you can contribute most. But it does mean you should be willing to go the extra mile.

When a leader is working less passionately fewer hours than their team, the team loses both passion for the mission and respect for the leader.

What Do You See?

These are 7 ways I think leaders can drive their teams nuts.

What would you add to this list?

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7 Leadership Blind Spots That Drive Your Team Crazy

12 Comments

  1. TJ on September 7, 2021 at 5:35 pm

    Leaders who never say thank you.
    Leaders for whom nothing is ever good enough.
    Leaders who have no sense of humor.
    Leaders who see every mistake as a personal affront.
    Leaders who will throw you under the bus.

  2. Chuck on September 4, 2021 at 7:43 am

    Leaders who don’t seek God’s will first, don’t lead by Scripture, and don’t walk in truth can impact a team and a church. Likewise, a pastor who does not do the same, pits members against leaders in the church can have a devastating impact on a team and a church. It would be interesting to dig deeper in these 4 easy tips, 6 steps, 7 ways to know, etc., series and write a series of articles on Pastors/Preachers who use the pulpit for personal gain and favor power and control over their original calling to spread the gospel.

    • Rob Charach on September 6, 2021 at 5:47 am

      Leaders who fail to grow will soon be running on fumes. I’m referencing both spiritual growth and holding a professional mindset of learning. This takes discipline to carve out time It also mean learning to say no to good things that are outside your mission. Add to this carving our time for the family and wife so they are getting a real part of your energy and time. Thoughtful , prayerful decision making is needed to lead effectively in an very demanding time .

  3. Joe on September 24, 2019 at 8:25 am

    6 & 7 – It is easy to fall into the delusion that you are the hardest worker or that you are putting in huge hours, particularly in the follow up to major events. Yes, we are occasionally called on to put in massive hours. However, there can also be times of slack that don’t require as much time as we think on a regular basis. We need people in our lives to ask us to examine our schedules closely. Are you coming in at 10 because you are working until 9 every evening, or did that happen 4 months ago & you just got in the habit of coming in late (even though you routinely go home at 5 now)?

  4. Janice on September 23, 2019 at 9:57 am

    Pastors and other church leaders who don’t meet communication deadlines (annual report, newsletter, Council updates, etc.) are a millstone around the neck for office staff. When leaders don’t meet deadlines, it creates stress, and is frustrating and exhausting for the rest of the team who can’t get THEIR work done until you get YOUR work done.

  5. Dennis on September 21, 2019 at 8:44 am

    Doing everything “by committee” is akin to the indecisiveness you mention. When the leader has to run everything past a committee of some sort or past a significant giver (or two or three or more) before proceeding, something’s wrong.

  6. Candice on September 21, 2019 at 4:29 am

    Quoting Bill Hybels? You lost me right there.

  7. Sylvester Nana Kwasi Asante on February 8, 2018 at 3:54 am

    Excellent and thought provoking ideals.

  8. Suzanne Yemen on February 1, 2018 at 10:08 am

    Leaders who micromanage.
    Leaders who work from home.
    Leaders who don’t recognize their weaknesses.

    • Brian on September 21, 2019 at 7:39 am

      👆🏼 All of these.
      I’d also add on with:
      Leaders who don’t have any self-awareness or are oblivious of their impact on those around them.
      Leaders who may not be working from home, but are also often not in the office.
      Leaders who can’t handle conflict.
      Leaders who spend more time with their shareholders/constituents than their staff.

      • Kevin on September 21, 2019 at 8:06 pm

        Thanks. Well done. I also like Brian’s above.

        • Jmasey on August 19, 2020 at 7:29 am

          It would be really nice to have a post that brings encouragement and strength to pastors and leaders right now. As true as many if your posts are the posts at the moment can make many leaders feel not enough, never perfect enough , never good enough.

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