YourEnneagramCoach.com founders Beth and Jeff McCord talk about how the Enneagram can help you better lead your team past misunderstandings and through conflict and tension toward a better future. Plus, they share how to further gain insight into how you’re wired as a leader so you can lead better.
Plus, in this episode’s What I’m Thinking About segment, Carey talks about the effects of exhaustion in leadership.
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Insights From Beth and Jeff McCord
1. When you believe everyone thinks (or should think) the way you do, you lose an opportunity to gain another valuable perspective
We all interact and experience the world in unique ways but we act as though everyone needs to think and do things the way we do. According to Beth, when we’re in an unhealthy frame of mind “we get agitated and frustrated and discouraged, irritable when people don’t think and do what we think they should do, which is our way, the right way.”
When we learn to value how other personalities and individuals see the world, we gain an appreciation for other thought processes and perspectives.
2. In order to get to where you’re going, you have to know where you are
We all have goals for ourselves, but like any journey, we don’t get to our destination without planning and intention. Our main goal, as Christians, is to to reflect Christ and become who God created us to be.
God gifted us with the ability to learn and mature as a part of that process. We don’t become our healthiest by trying to be another personality. We become our healthiest by noticing where our weaknesses or pitfalls are and “come back to the Holy Spirit, ask him for help, and have him work in and through us into that healthier direction.”
3. To lead others well, you have to know yourself well
Beth clarifies, “I can’t lead well unless I know myself, and I lead from that interior part of the core of who I am and what I want. Really, what I want as a leader, I want my team to feel cared for. Everyone has a place at the table. I want your voice to matter.”
Knowing your tendencies and how you react to things, and learning how your team members think and react to things, helps you create the communication and respect you want in your culture. Beth finishes her thought by stating, “Using the Enneagram has been so helpful for me to be able to speak specifically and with directness to any of the personality types the way they need to be talked to, not the way I want for people to talk to me.”
Quotes from Episode 457I can't lead well unless I know myself. @enneagram_coach Click To Tweet When you're aligned with what is true, you're going to live that out. @enneagram_coach Click To Tweet By understanding what's happening inside of me, I'm able to extend the same kind of compassion and patience to those around me. @enneagram_coach Click To Tweet The Enneagram is so helpful because it really shows who you can become. @enneagram_coach Click To Tweet If we understand what's going on under the hood, we can actually have real conversations about what's going on versus assuming incorrectly other people's thoughts, feeling, and motives. @enneagram_coach Click To Tweet We're very adamant that people not use the Enneagram as a sword or a shield. @enneagram_coach Click To Tweet Sacrificing your family on the altar of leadership in my view isn't leadership. Click To Tweet If you're winning at work and losing at home, you're losing, period. Click To Tweet Exhaustion is the gateway drug to moral failure. Click To Tweet When you're exhausted, bad things seem good and good things seem bad, and that's a perfect setup for moral failure. Click To Tweet An exhausted decision-maker is a terrible decision maker. Click To Tweet A defeated leader will eventually create a defeated team. Click To Tweet Time off can't heal you if the problem is how you spend time on. Click To Tweet
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