CNLP 389: Andy Stanley Dissects the Process He Uses to Make Decisions, the Limits of Gut-Based Decision Making, and How to Stop Lying to Yourself as a Leader

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Andy Stanley returns to the podcast and breaks down the process he uses to make decisions, why he moved to team-based decision making as a young leader, and what the limits of gut-based decision making are.

Andy walks leaders through five questions that will help them make better decisions and have fewer regrets, and explains how leaders can stop lying to themselves and make better decisions as a result.

Welcome to Episode 389 of the podcastListen and access the show notes below or search for the Carey Nieuwhof Leadership Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts and listen for free.

Plus, in this episode’s What I’m Thinking About segment, Carey talks 2 questions he asks when making decisions.

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1. Great leaders don’t make great decisions, they make sure the right decisions get made

So many people think that a great leader is the person who has all of the right answers. That’s actually not true. Great leaders build great teams of leaders who make high-quality team-based decisions.

2. If you want to make better decisions, ask better questions

When you make a poor decision as a leader, you wish that you could go back and ask more questions before making that bad decision. In his new book Better Decisions, Fewer Regrets, Andy outlines 5 questions every leader should ask before making decisions.

3. When making decisions, draw the line at wise/unwise, not illegal/legal or moral/immoral

When you look back at the major regrets you have in your life, they are almost always preceded by a series of unwise decisions. If you want to avoid doing things you regret, ask yourself, “Is this wise?” If it’s not, don’t do it.

Quotes from Episode 389

You can't lead other people well until you lead yourself well. And you can't lead yourself well if you're lying to yourself. @AndyStanley Click To Tweet

Leaders who refuse to listen will eventually be surrounded by people who have nothing helpful to say. @AndyStanley Click To TweetEvery decision we make becomes a permanent part of the story of our lives. @AndyStanley Click To Tweet

Leadership is not about making decisions. Leadership is about making sure that the decisions that are made are the right decisions. @AndyStanley Click To Tweet When you live on the edge of disaster, it just takes one more small decision to undermine our future hopes and dreams. @AndyStanley Click To Tweet Being honest with ourselves is perhaps the best decision-making habit, but it's one of the hardest. @AndyStanley Click To Tweet Knowing the right thing to do has absolutely nothing to do with whether or not we do the right thing. @AndyStanley Click To Tweet When we can make decisions based on ultimate rather than immediate, we make better decisions, we live with fewer regrets. @AndyStanley Click To Tweet Our greatest regrets are almost always preceded by a series of unwise decisions. @AndyStanley Click To Tweet You're never going to go wrong making the wise decision. @AndyStanley Click To Tweet When you're not sure what to say or do, you do what love requires of you. @AndyStanley Click To Tweet Don't make a permanent decision trying to address what really is a temporary problem. @AndyStanley Click To Tweet Decisions are like the steering wheel of our lives. @AndyStanley Click To Tweet

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Carey Nieuwhof is a best-selling leadership author, speaker, podcaster, former attorney, and church planter. He hosts one of today’s most influential leadership podcasts, and his online content is accessed by leaders over 1.5 million times a month. He speaks to leaders around the world about leadership, change, and personal growth.