CNLP 411: Ian Morgan Cron Explains How Your Enneagram Type Responds to Chronic Stress and the Difference Between Fake Authenticity and True Vulnerability

After a year of leading through constant crisis, how are leaders supposed to cope?

Ian Morgan Cron and Carey catch up on how each Enneagram type reacts under stress and the difference between fake or strategic authenticity and true vulnerability.

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Typology Podcast

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Typology Podcast: Seven Core Challenges of Leadership, feat. Carey Nieuwhof (Enneagram 8)

Typology Podcast: Carey Nieuwhof on the Enneagram and Self-Leadership, part 2 (Enneagram 8)

The Road Back to You by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile

CNLP 241: Ian Morgan Cron on Using Your Enneagram Number to Boost Self-Awareness, Spiritual Growth and Reduce Conflict at Work and at Home

CNLP 342: Ian Morgan Cron on How Your Enneagram Type Handles Stress, How to Stay Healthy in a Crisis, and the Best Approach to Dealing with Uncertainty

CNLP 278: Ian Morgan Cron on How Your Enneagram Profile Positions You for Burnout, Pride, Cynicism and Other Hidden Traps in Life and Leadership

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Insights From Ian

1. Take care of your basic needs if you want to fight anxiety

As a corporate consultant and therapist, Ian often gets calls from leaders who are dealing with some pretty intense anxiety in the moment, and they want him to help them stop being so anxious.

His first question to them is often, “What did you eat for breakfast?” Usually, the answer is, “Nothing.” Then, he asks, “How much water have you drank today?” Followed by, “When was the last time you exercised?” And, “How much sleep have you gotten the last three nights?” Usually, they’re struggling with three or four of those things, so he tells them to fix those issues and call him back. Seven times out of 10, this fixes their issue.

2. When you’re stressed, avoid the trap of managing rather than leading

When many leaders get stressed, they fall into the trap of managing rather than leading. You probably have great managers working under you as a leader. Ian recommends you let them do their job, and that you focus on leading them with vision and direction rather than micromanaging.

3. Loneliness is killing leaders

During the interview, Ian makes a point to recommend every single leader ask themselves, “Am I lonely?” With today’s technology, people are becoming more isolated, and loneliness has become an epidemic. Odds are, you or someone you know are being seriously impacted by loneliness.

To fight loneliness, Ian recommends having more spontaneous visits with old friends, more FaceTime calls with relatives and putting yourself into more social situations than you might be comfortable with. It might be uncomfortable in the short-term, but will pay off in the long.

Quotes from Episode 411

Don't you know that when you try to be authentic, you're automatically being inauthentic? @ianmorgancron Click To Tweet Vulnerability is arguably the most important ingredient in forging great relationships. @ianmorgancron Click To Tweet Embrace your powerlessness, and when you do that, you find power. @ianmorgancron Click To Tweet Leaders can confuse vulnerability with weakness. @ianmorgancron Click To Tweet When people panic, they stop leading. @ianmorgancron Click To Tweet You want to have relationships? Start practicing vulnerability. @ianmorgancron Click To Tweet Technology is set up to create addicts. @ianmorgancron Click To Tweet We're facing loneliness. And loneliness has reached epidemic proportions. @ianmorgancron Click To Tweet A lot of leaders live with the myth of invincibility. @ianmorgancron Click To Tweet You've got to lead people the way they want to be led. Click To Tweet Self-awareness is spiritual awareness. Click To Tweet

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CNLP 411: Ian Morgan Cron Explains How Your Enneagram Type Responds to Chronic Stress and the Difference Between Fake Authenticity and True Vulnerability

3 Comments

  1. Jodi McCullah on April 20, 2021 at 7:44 am

    My spouse and I want to take Enneagram assessments. Any you recommend? Thanks.

    • Carey Nieuwhof on April 20, 2021 at 11:30 am

      Ian’s IEQ9 is the best assessment I’ve found!

    • Carey Nieuwhof on April 21, 2021 at 3:39 pm

      Hey Jodi,

      Reading Ian’s book The Road Back To You might be the best way to discover your number. It’s very common for people to mistype when they just take a quiz.

      I hope this helps!

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