Carlos Whittaker battled porn for much of his ministry life until it manifested itself in a relationship that almost cost him his family.
In an honest conversation, he talks about clearing the cobwebs of sin out of his life by finally killing the spider that was spinning them all. He talks to leaders about what to do when sin messes with your life and ministry.
Welcome to Episode 161 of the podcast.
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3 Insights from This Episode
1. You have the ability to remove the lies that are holding you back and live free from the brokenness those lies bring
Seeking to find the truth behind deeply rooted pain involves investing in many things. Prayer. Solitude. Therapy. Supportive Friends. The recovery process isn’t a quick one and often people find themselves eventually falling back into the behaviours they worked so hard to overcome. Carlos Whittaker lived through that cycle for years, but practicing these 3 actions finally freed him from the lies he’d believed his entire life:
1.Confess the Lie
2. Reject the Lie
3. Replace the Lie with God’s Truth
His book Kill the Spider is a spiritual and personal guide on how to go beyond medicating a lie with false comforts by remove it completely from your life.
2. Chase after Jesus before you chase after the person you’ve hurt
You have to attack and win the spiritual battle within you before you’ll ever be ready to repair damage you’ve caused in your earthly relationships. Once you’ve experienced God’s healing and are reconnected with Him, you will be better equipped to try to restore what you’ve broken in others.
3. Believe God can heal the broken by showing them the love of Jesus
We all have people in our lives struggling in the darkness. Sure, we pray for them, but are we praying with them?
While loved ones search to find Jesus in a time that feels completely isolating, show them Jesus by offering tangible support and grace. Your strong presence could serve as a prompting in their hearts that God can bring freedom and restoration.
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Next Episode: Jarrid Wilson
At age 15, Jarrid Wilson told a youth group leader he was depressed, and essentially felt dismissed.
By age 19, the silence felt like it was killing him and he started googling painless ways to die.
A decade later, at 29, he’s in a very different place, having battled depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts. We discuss his story and why mental health is so hard to talk about—and deal with—in the church.
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