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5 Tell-Tale Signs Your Church Is Geared to Insiders, Not Outsiders


Pretty much every church leader I talk to says they long to reach their community. After all, the church is one of the only missions on the planet that exists for the sake of its non-members.

But there’s a strange tension to which leaders are often blind: as much as they say they want to reach outsiders, their services and the entire organization are geared toward insiders. As a result, when someone they’re trying to reach shows up, it’s easy for them to feel like they don’t fit in or like this church simply isn’t for them. And most leaders simply miss the signs that this is the case. So they scratch their heads and wonder why outsiders don’t flock toward their church.

The truth is there’s a gravitational pull inside almost every church to sacrifice the church’s mission by catering to the church’s members.

And while you can’t ignore the needs of your members, there’s a strange paradox that’s true about spiritual maturity: the best way to become spiritually mature is to stop focusing on your needs and begin focusing on Christ and others. Some church leaders drown in the sink-hole of trying to satisfy the escalating demands of their unpleasable members while they watch the real mission go up in flames.

Worse, others think they’re geared to outsiders when in reality, they’re not. At least not really. They’ve given in to the subtle but relentless pull of the needs of insiders.

With that in mind, here are 5 tell-tale signs your church is geared to insiders, not outsiders, despite your best intentions.

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1. Long announcements

I know this is a weird one to start with, but really, how long are your announcements?

If they’re longer than 3 minutes, you’re probably geared toward insiders more than you realize.

The purpose of a welcome is to welcome people, not announce 18 things.

Churches often feel the tension of announcements as their church grows. If you have a church of 30, there’s probably not much going on. But if you’re a church of 300, you feel the pressure of everyone trying to get their message across.

What about really big churches, you ask? Well, you’ll likely never get to 3,000 if you don’t solve this problem first.

Why is this such a trap for smaller and mid-sized churches? Here’s why. Leaders feel torn, trying to please everyone, and so they cave to the ‘one more announcement’ syndrome because they fear the wrath of whoever they left out.

But think about it. If you’re coming to church for the first time, the last thing you want to hear is a long laundry list of things you’re not interested in. You want to meet Jesus, or at least learn more about him.

And if the welcome isn’t geared toward that, you’ve missed the opportunity to connect your first-time guest with their most important objective: what to do to take a next step in their journey.

And the answer to taking a next step is not to do 18 things. It’s to do one thing.

If you don’t know what that one thing is, you’re not geared to outsiders. You’re likely just catering to the needs and wants of insiders.

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2. Trying to get everyone to do everything

All of this leads us to the second issue insider-focused churches struggle with in their bulletin and announcements: trying to get everyone to do everything.

I remember when our church was at this stage. We had about 400 or 500 attending and we were a program based church at the time.

Every group was fighting for new members, so the pressure was on to get people to join. The people who led each group were also convinced that their group was the best thing for people, so it deserved a prime spot. And if you left them out, they got mad because their program didn’t grow.

That creates this strange dynamic where you’re trying to get everyone who attends your church to do everything.

Look, people can’t do 20 things. They can probably do one thing, or maybe two.

And if you don’t tell new guests what the one thing is they need to do, guess what they’ll do? That’s right—nothing.

Ditto with asking regular attenders to a lot of things. If you ask people to do 20 things, most people will do nothing.

So—just to be clear— if you want most people at your church to do nothing, keep suggesting they do everything.

As we prepared to break the 500 mark, I actually led the church through a year-long rethink which led to us shutting down most of our ministries and our Wednesday night service so that we could focus on a few key strategic steps that led the greatest number of people (including new people) into spiritual growth: serving, giving, inviting friends and groups. And we run an orientation called Next for new people and invite them to take Starting Point before joining a group. The goal? To find a few strategic engagement points for people that would help them find faith and grow in their faith.

When it comes to leading people into transformation, simplicity is your friend.

If you want more on this, read Tony Morgan’s guest post about programs v. path, and this piece I wrote on why engagement is the new church attendance.

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3. Saved seats

This is a small thing that’s actually a big thing. I was at a church last year where no one on the guest services team ushered me and my wife to our seats. We were just handed a bulletin and made our way down.

When I got a row that looked quite open, I headed in and asked the elderly woman a few seats in whether they empty seats were taken, she said “Not yet.”

I had no idea what she meant.

So I asked if I could sit a few over from her. She just looked at me, didn’t say a word and moved further away by two seats. Welcome to church.

Nothing says church is for insiders quite as loudly as ‘you can’t sit in my seat.’

Interestingly enough, her friends did show up halfway through the service one by one. None of them smiled at us…they just kind of brustled past and sat even further away.

No idea what that was about, but I doubt I’d go back if that was my first time.

You should train your guest services team to walk people into a seat and let them do the work of cheesing off your grumpy members.

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4. Insider speak

Christians often talk weird—from the front and with each other.

Too often, we use unnecessarily strange language—like this:

“This is good coffee, brother.”

“Amen. Hallelujah.”

“Let’s fellowship together.”

Um, none of this is good. Why not just talk at church the way you talk at the office or at a football game or on a Saturday by the pool? (Actually, if you talk like that normally, you probably don’t get invited out too often.)

Here’s what’s actually at stake: if someone has to learn code to join your church, you likely won’t have many people joining your church.

Our challenge is to reduce the human barriers that keep people from Jesus, not to erect new ones.

And, no, being weird does not mean you’re being faithful. It just means you’re being weird.

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5. Music That Lacks Guts

Many churches have made the move toward a more contemporary style of music. But most churches haven’t moved far enough. The reason? Fear.

Your church is too contemporary to make insiders happy, and your approach is still too dated, irrelevant and unengaging to capture the imagination of unchurched people. You’ve made as many changes as you think you can navigate without alienating your existing membership, but not brought about nearly enough change to really engage outsiders.

As a result, you are in no man’s land. In an attempt to please everyone, you have pleased no one.

A lot of leaders often compromise what they want to do because of fear of the backlash of their core members. So we convince ourselves we’re contemporary, even if we’re not. We’re just holding off the war over music as best we can.

If you think your church is contemporary, just check out the current Top 40. My guess? Your definition of what sounds contemporary and the average 30-year-old unchurched’s person’s understanding of what sounds contemporary are world’s apart.

I’m not saying we need to sound exactly like today’s top 40, I’m just saying don’t fool yourself into thinking you’re culturally engaged when you’re nowhere near it.

If your church is still feeling the tension over music, here’s a piece that might help.

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  1. rpsabq on July 13, 2019 at 9:21 pm

    Newsflash: People come to church to see church, not to see church doing what they think the world wants to see. Do what you do well. If choir and organ is your strength do that. If a band is your strength do that. If all you have a is a piano do that. Whatever you do, DON’T do what you think the world is expecting you to do. Anything but authenticity will cause you to fail.

  2. Thyatira on May 31, 2019 at 2:31 pm

    Musings on music. I wonder sometimes what music style we will hear when in our heavenly home?

    At Pentecost everyone heard the message in their own language. Might it be that everyone of us will hear Heaven’s melodies in the style that so suits each individual need so as to best fill our thoughts with perfect praise for our perfect Lord?

    And meanwhile, since we all need to be stretched and learn to make room for the preferences of others, could it not be that we each give up our ideas of what would make us happy at church, give up our expectations and be willing to listen to a mixture of music styles from a variety of cultures?

    Could we not all make room each Sunday for a variety of music styles? Hymns for me, songs, rap, Asian, African and so on, styles for them?

    The content is what’s matters. And think of all the filth and “me” focused worldly songs that God listens to all week. Words filtering up to Him that at least try to bring Him honour and glory, sung and led by those whose lives also honour Him, must be a sweet perfume.

    Hymns mostly put me in a better frame of
    Mind to worship God than Christian rock and rap however, since my Lord and my God are breathtakingly Creative, it is to my benefit to be stretched and challenged by diverse styles, forms, cultures and people. Paul speaks of psalms, hymns and spiritual songs, and the instruments of the day were varied.

    Let’s be more willing to be Holy Spirit-led and let go of man-made traditions and personal preferences. I’m not talking about letting go of theological truths. That’s a given. (Verse by verse, book by book expositional teaching is my favorite way of learning and I think the safest way of keeping the preacher from speaking personal opinions or visiting personal favourites or running from dreaded passages. I digress).

    Why not every week make a space where the 80year olds can sit alongside the 20year olds and enjoy one hymn and one song and one psalm, with organ, brass, strings, singing traditionally and contemporarily, and then listen to, if you can’t sing that fast, some rap that praises and glorifies God Almighty, Lord and Saviour and Holy Spirit.

    It takes a mature church to do this. People who are willing to let go of their desires. Willing to serve others by giving up their idea of perfect church. Willing to experience God anew.

    Music is just another language enabling us to bow before our Creative King in another creative way. We will better understand each other if we willingly participate in each other’s preferred style of worship once a week. When we refuse to unite in this way at church, when we worship only with those who look and think and smell and sound like us, we miss out on Who God is. Our Father, our ABBA is multicultural, multidimensional, multiethnic, He is so diverse that we need an eternity to get to know Him. We miss out on so much of Our ABBA, when we huddle together only in our little comfy-zone groups of people with whom we agree. We need our tribe. Of course we do. But we also need to step out of the comfy zone. If we are not willing to do that within the church, how are we going to do the scary, intimidating work of sharing Christ with everyone we meet and giving up our lives for the making of disciples?

    Want to grow spiritually?
    Want deeper communion with our Saviour?
    Ask God to show you/me what you’re holding onto which is preventing you from deeper communion with Him. Ask Him to reveal through the power of The Holy Spirit what it is that you’re holding higher and loving more than Him or His desires for you. Ask Him to help you get out of the way so He can do His work in you.

    Ask God daily to bring into your life, people who look and sound different from you and who worship God differently so you can learn more about Who He is. Since we are all made in His image and we are all born wrong / all came out wrong (as Jesus told Nichodemus) and since we all need Jesus to give us new birth, to born us again His way, with His covering, we all are important to Him. The eighty year old who you think doesn’t get it and who is stuck in his ways and the twenty year old who you think knows it all but knows nothing and therefore neither of you have anything to learn from the other …. if we cannot see the image of God in each other how will we ever unite at church? Let’s show our community how much we love one another by respecting and including each other’s preferred styles and by growing as we each let go of ours.

    I agree. We are to go out and make disciples, and In small groups meet together regularly to build one another up in Biblical Truth. To be poured into and then go OUT of that group and pour into the lives of our neighbors and communities.

    Thanks for the article and ideas. May God convict and grow us each as we try to do a better job of communicating The Good News by loving God first with heart mind and soul and then loving our neighbor as ourself.

    Who is my neighbor?
    How can I be Christ to her?
    How might I serve this person made in The Image of God, just like me. Messed up. Just like me.
    How might I bear the Family resemblance of ABBA today?

  3. Kevin E Marsh on May 30, 2019 at 2:12 pm

    I think that a good sign that it is geared to insiders is that no one is bringing new people in. They are content with who is there and have no desire to invite anyone who might muddie the works.

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    • Linda S on April 14, 2019 at 10:32 am

      I once saw two guys come into the church I’d been attending for twenty years.
      I’d never seen them
      before and they wore earrings and tatoos, and both had long hair. They dressed
      in I guess you’d say hippie attire, but they were clean.
      I immediately felt joy over seeing
      them there, looking for a seat and wanted to go over and say hi
      but they were engaged in conversation
      with each other so I decided to wait so I wouldn’t interrupt them. At the same
      time I looked over and saw a few guys that
      were regular members looking over at them and laughing with each other, instead of going over and
      making them feel welcome Those two guys already looked unsure of themselves, and they noticed those
      guys. After a few minutes they got up and left and I never saw them again.
      I even tried to stop them to say hello,
      but they went another way and I couldn’t reach them through the crowd of people.
      I’m not one to believe just anyone should LEAD a
      church, since people living in sin are not qualified. The bible says that so I agree with whatever Gods word
      says. But all people should be accepted in church, and what better place for them to be? Unfortunately
      it’s not always that way. My pastor used to say he was glad he grew up in church because he didn’t turn
      out like other people did, and all it did was remind me of the pharisee and the tax collector, one bragged on
      himself and thought he was better than others, and the other humbled himself and admitted his sinfulness.
      I’ve since left that church because I felt the pastor was self-righteous, even though I really felt he
      loved God and was a faithful man, I just got tired of seeing people not feeling welcomed to the fold. I’ve
      visited other churches myself and I know the feeling of not being welcomed by the people that
      regularly attend that church. It’s a big problem sometimes it seems pastors not only
      don’t get it, but sometimes they’re worse than some of the members who see the problem
      but don’t get listened to.

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  6. Arne on April 21, 2018 at 11:44 am

    The Great commission, Go out and make disciples. We the people, the congregation are the ones to go out. Remembering we all have failed and fall short of Gods expectations, yet in Gods love, he receives us, doesn’t condemn us. Through teaching, it’s the job of the Holy Spirit to convict our hearts and mind to change. Salvation is a process until we die. John st because you’ve been in the church 25 years, you maybe just as screwed up if you’ve been there for 1 month.

    It’s our responsibility to point to Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith. It’s not our job to change people…and too often the pride or phariseeism drives people away. They aren’t allowed to come as they are.

    I know, I’m messed up, a sinner who loves Jesus. It’s because I’m an messed up that I need a Savior.

  7. Phil Siebert on April 7, 2018 at 5:16 pm

    Carey, I feel that your article reinforces the idea that ‘church’ is Program and a Performance, happening in a designated Place and at a Prescribed time, led by by Professionals who need a Paycheck and like their Position and Publishings, with general neglect for the justice and the poor. I realize that it is hard to have a reality check when you are in the “Bubble”. Once again, I hear a pastor promoting the organization and a book – under the guise of ‘church’. How is it that we call ourselves “Christian” and have strayed so very far from Christ and his message and practice? Did you know that Jesus had no desire to see ‘church’, as we have come to know it? Jesus talked of an “Ecclesia” – a gathering of called out ones – Kingdom followers coming together to build each other up. (No edifice, no salaries and secretaries, no order of service, no music tensions no program, no leadership hierarchy) Sadly, it appears that over the centuries we have tagged what we do as ‘church’, with all the assumptions and trappings and traditions of worship/preaching/program and organization and missed the whole point.

    • Dr. Mike Hopper on April 10, 2018 at 8:14 am

      Phil Siebert:
      Let me see if I understand your church model correctly. The true church is a group of people standing outside in the current weather ( no edifice needed), with no one to inform people about the meeting (no secretary needed ), with no plan for the content or organization of the meeting (no leadership/pastor needed), with no money to provide utilities (aka toilets/sewage, electricity, water, etc. needed), no music (aka instruments, leaders, books or sheets needed).

      Your model sounds like a colony of termites……but they at least have a common plan of action and carry it out very well – eating anything that is wooden and reproducing baby termites.

      I was a pastor for more than 40 years, and your hyper idealized model of “church” has never existed. Even the day after Pentecost, people were meeting in homes (edifices), sharing meals (utilities), singing (psalms and spiritual songs) listening to the apostles (leadership), and changing their world. Our only problem now is lay people who claim to love Jesus, but do not have enough love for other people to go out and tell them about a risen savior who died and rose again for them – which is the exact problem Carey Nieuwhof has described.

      • Lewis on August 8, 2018 at 9:04 am

        I think there’s a balance here. Yes, I’d agree that your article reinforces church as a program, but I’d also agree that the ‘church’ being the people is a biblical model that needs to happen, but not in the context that’s being described. If you look at the church in Athens, it’s a group of people who meet together in homes to read the word, eat food and worship God. I believe we’re seeing a shift where the church is returning to her roots and trying to find Raw church again. What church has become isn’t bad, I just believe that it’s not the point. churches that have Satelites of smaller churches which come together for the bigger gatherings once every 6 months ring true to me. Long gone are the days when non-Christians will just walk into your church. we’re in far too much of a consumerist culture for that. church is for the saved to regroup, be fed together, seek God together and then go out into the world and save the lost. The problem is that people struggle with the latter. Church should be about empowering people to do that, not an outreach tool.

      • Sarah K on April 13, 2019 at 8:48 am

        “your hyper idealized model of “church” has never existed”

        Sure it does. See “Religious Society of Friends (Quakers)” — specifically the unprogrammed Meetings. (We don’t even call it church, because it is about the people gathered in Spirit, not the location/building.) No program, no performance, no staff, collective governance & leadership, Ministry offered as Spirit moves. We have our own issues, certainly, but hew as closely as we can to “Ecclesia” as described.

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  11. Stu on March 29, 2018 at 12:23 pm

    I agree Jonathan.
    Acts 2:42 sums up the perpose of the Church: “They devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer.” So that is teaching biblical doctrine, providing a place of fellowship for BELIEVERS, observing the Lord’s supper, and prayer.
    It is to be the place where the Spiritual guiftings are to be administered and recieved, where church discipline is to be practiced (see 1 Corinthians Chapters 5 and chapter 6) and our place of community. We are to be SEPARATE from the world, not participating with it nor letting it in.

    The “Great commission” in Matthew 28 was to GO (out) Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, 20 and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you.”

    • Jim Orozco on November 15, 2019 at 8:39 am

      This is correct. Church is the people not the programs and all. The gathering is for believers. We are to Disciple out side in our daily lives. Now it’s (The building the business) an institution ….The institution is usually one or a few peoples vision with a bunch of people on board for the ride, No accountability to the flock only to the growth and in most cases the growth is all they talk about.. Been a part of many churches all with the same goal and same exact problems..It doesn’t work the way Jesus commanded..Maybe a building could have a thousand people and be great stewards with running THE BUSINESS but all of them lack accountability to members spiritual growth and life change. As long as the bills are paid and the seats are full everything must be good..Right??? That’s a big NO!!! God Bless just my little 2 cents on the matter!!!

  12. Jonathan on March 28, 2018 at 9:29 pm

    Am I the only one who thinks everything Carey says has nothing to do with the great commission and everything to do with catering to a pastors ego? God saves because it’s his will to do so, for his glory. Not yours. Biblical teaching, honest worship, making disciples to GO and minister to others. The pastors job is to teach the word in truth and love. All your ideas are a waste of internet space.

    • Hep on March 29, 2018 at 6:12 am

      I agree! Why are we even trying to get church attendance to 3000? We should be winning 3000 souls buy “ going out” not by bringing in. Can a church effectively minister to that many people the way scripture shows us to where we bear each other’s burden and iron sharpening iron? I don’t disagree with the general principals of the article. I disagree with the ogoal rational.

      • Chesk on July 29, 2019 at 9:34 am

        Yeah. I think 100 is a good number. I specifically prayed for a small church, and Jesus brought me one. The pastors are ambitious though, so it could go to pot if they get their building and international profile. There are people at the church with large houses and we could easily meet there, but we don’t we pay out for hall hire and all the razzamataz- which I can’t find in the bible. But we must go and we must love.

    • Mei on April 2, 2018 at 11:26 am

      I agree. It felt more like a lot of complaining and one’s personal opinion than anything else.

    • Jim Orozco on November 15, 2019 at 8:42 am

      I agree with you 100%

  13. Dallas McLean on March 28, 2018 at 1:42 pm

    No one talks to new comers in the foyer before or after service, especially leadership. Everyone talks to the circle of friends instead. My experience is that is the best chance to start relationship and give opportunity for further connecting.

  14. Darryl Stewart on March 27, 2018 at 3:46 pm

    Good artice. When peole are not inviting friends there could be lots of reasons.
    Sometimes it’s a chicken and egg question. You have addressed one scenario well, when there are no ‘friends walking through the door’ because they were not visitor friendly.
    Church has become an insider club by default and the regulars just hang in there doing the same old same old.
    A good exercise might be to ask the existing members why they dont invite friends.
    Some may be perceptive enough to see and explain areas of disconnect between the church and the real world out there.

  15. Ken on March 27, 2018 at 12:59 pm

    Although I try not to judge a book by its cover, I can often get an accurate sense of how insider focused a church is before even walking through the doors by visiting their website. If I have to dig deep into the website to get a sense of what I’ll experience, that church is probably focused on their members. As a former unchurched person, I always appreciate easily finding out what I am walking into before visiting an unfamiliar church.

    Inside the church a good indicator is how obvious is it for a new person to know what they should do or where they should go. I think good signage helps, proactive volunteers are better, both are best. This is an area where fresh eyes really help. We know our buildings and where to go and whether or not the coffee is free, but for a first time person experiencing sensory overload from new sights and unfamiliar people talking even noticing a sign or a door that to us obviously leads to the auditorium (or whatever your church calls it) can be difficult. Also, if greeters/guest services type volunteers are engaging in long conversations with their friends while “on duty” they might be missing an opportunity to engage with a visitor. Nothing screams you are an outsider like someone clearly there to greet people wrapped up in a conversation and only giving a brief “good morning” before returning to their friends.

    I appreciate what you wrote about long announcements. I recently have assumed the responsibility of doing the welcome and offering portions of our service and am still figuring out my rhythm and what will be most effective. Just a good reminder to keep visitors in mind.

    I also really like the header “Music That Lacks Guts”. I know when you try to talk about music people like to twist what you say into one style is better than the other, but this advice can be applied to way more than just music. Blogs about where our focus is are helpful to remind ourselves not to get stuck in between where we feel led to go and where we feel pressured to stay. Worship music can be a tricky subject because everyone has their own personal preference for type of music. But what I don’t understand are the arguments that certain types of music are more spiritual. Why would God not want us to use our passion to create and perform all different kinds of music that honor Him? What is sad to me is to see a church band or choir play with no emotion or enthusiasm of any kind. Those must be the people that want to change and do something else but are too afraid to move.

    The music discussion (okay, often argument) can really be telling if we are insider focused or trying to reach people not going church. Yes, there are young people that return to or start going to churches that are “traditional” and connect to the tradition or comfort of knowing what to expect when. But that’s the beauty of having all different kinds of churches. But just because some like that doesn’t mean that we can ignore the next generation. And, obviously generalizing here, because that’s what you do when talking generations, today’s kids and youngest of adults care deeply about authenticity. Those growing up in the church will likely adapt the style of music they like Monday-Saturday to the church stage because that is how they will authentically express their love of God. So those of us called to offer a more contemporary service to reach “outsiders” we can empower and embrace worship leaders trying new things on stage that they are passionate about, or we can hope in 10 years a Gen Z church catches those we miss.

  16. Alison on March 27, 2018 at 12:08 pm

    Souls are usually not won on Sundays.

  17. Josh Butcher on March 27, 2018 at 10:23 am

    Hey Carey – long time reader, first time commenter – question about the LONG announcements. In your opinion, what would you suggest would be an appropriate length for announcements? I’m sure it depends on the culture of the church, etc… so maybe a better question, at Connexus, what is the amount of time devoted to general announcements, if any at all. Thanks a ton for your content!

    • Carey Nieuwhof on April 2, 2018 at 5:41 am

      Thanks Josh. I would say 2-3 minutes. 🙂 I know it’s hard, but that’s where we’ve landed and it’s effective. If you have a major initiative (like a big invite project or capital campaign) you can take a little more time, but use some different creative elements (like video) and try using the offering time.

  18. Lisa on March 27, 2018 at 7:27 am

    A musical genre for worship should blossom out of the gifts present in the congregation that are being trained and equipped for a lifetime of service; not follow the latest trends in musical idolization, which won’t always allow for safe and sound growth of one’s artistic craft in a way that allows for life-long stewardship of those gifts. Whether band-based, choir and organ based, folk group, jazz combo, C/W or whatever other genre of music-based, they all matter in God’s sight, and we should support the gifts present among us rather than force artists to bend to our musical whims. Churches need to be authentic to their ministries first, including the arts.

  19. Justin on March 27, 2018 at 2:11 am

    Hi Carey,
    I really appreciate your posts and content. (The comments not always so much).

    Do you have any thoughts to offer on churches where “enthusiastic punters” save ‘the best seats’? I’m thinking both of key team, early arriving volunteers, platform people, as well as the exuberant “doors open” rush.

    Do you have any thoughts on churches that encourage ‘leading’ from the front and its impact on culture towards outsiders. (From memory Andy Stanley saves the second row for late comers… what does Connexus do)?

    Thanks for the solid content.

    • Carey Nieuwhof on April 2, 2018 at 5:43 am

      Thanks Justin! The comments can be fun. Some nice ones on this thread too. I keep them around because of leaders like you (and many others) who want to lean in and grow together. We’ve done a few things: roped off the back 5 rows until the front and middle are filled. We ONLY save a few seats for the production/speaking crew on Sunday, and even yesterday gave up half that row to guests as we were out of space. For me, it’s a mindset. If you keep telling people to focus on new people…eventually they get the idea it’s not about them, but about Christ and others.

      • Lesa Reisdorf on April 10, 2019 at 9:54 am

        How about sit in a seat you’ve never sat in day? Well publicized to old members so they know to switch it up. Reminded by ushers as they enter that day. A new perspective. Could even be used as theme of a sermon that day. I used to do this in my high school classes

  20. Tony on March 26, 2018 at 11:38 pm

    Using Jargons, Abbrevations, terms only familiar with the insiders alienate the outsiders

  21. David E. Casteel on March 26, 2018 at 6:25 pm

    Go too far in the Pop 40 direction in your church music and all you’ll have left in the congregation are those under the age of 40. I’m 80 and I certainly would not stay. (I won’t attend our Contemporary service as is–I go to church to worship, not participate in a rock concert.) Most modern church music is 7-11 music (7 words 11 times)–it does not have a scriptural base and does not convey much in the way of Biblical truth.

  22. Tony on March 26, 2018 at 3:40 pm

    Carey, some of the posters here have probably never pastored a church. If I understand correctly, there is a crown given for soul winners. There isn’t a crown for operating in spiritual gifts (which I do), or for being a theologian (which I teach in Bible Schools), but for winning souls.

    So, I always look at the purpose of each thing I do. Sunday morning, a special conference, a bible study, or bible school. Everything has a purpose. Unfortunately, some people think everything should be done the same way.

    What is the purpose of Sunday morning? It’s always been an opportunity to win lost people while still being able to worship and feed the saints. I have made the minor adjustments to help unsaved guests feel comfortable. It works, and at the same time our church members are getting fed.

    I have found as a pastor some of the least influential people in church are the ones who criticise everything and claim they can do it better. They have a few followers who think they are more spiritual than everyone else and have more revelation than everyone else.

    The question I have for them is: Are you thinking about what God considers important? Do you want to look and seem spiritual to your Christian peers or do want to win lost people?

    The soul winners crown is waiting to be had for every believer.

    • Tony on March 26, 2018 at 3:44 pm

      I forgot to say I appreciate you Carey and you have been a blessing to many ministers.

      • Carey Nieuwhof on April 2, 2018 at 5:44 am

        Thanks Tony!

  23. Didi on March 26, 2018 at 1:21 pm

    I think a church should be neither “insider” nor “outsider” focussed. Why not focus on Christ instead – living in obedience to his commandments (including the great commission)?
    I also think that most pastors want to grow their “churches” because they care about their (big, fat) salaries. I would have turned away from Christianity had I not known about the example set by Paul and Barnabas in this matter (1 Corinthians 9).

    • D. Mindach on March 26, 2018 at 1:40 pm

      Yes… “Big fat salaries”, is just one of the many temptations the clergy faces. But IF they can keep to the word, and not be tempted by the secular trappings, you will feel the genuine (lasting) Religion of Christianity!

      Entertain the congregation outside the “Sanctuary”, teach the word inside, and God will be pleased.

      • Cathy Kroohs on March 27, 2018 at 10:11 am

        ‘BIG, FAT salaries”? Wow, I bet my pastor wishes she had one of those! We pay about the average for our area, but that is well below salaries paid in business to people with comparable education and responsibilities. Given that we are paying about average, I also know there are pastors in our area working to spread the gospel and care for their congregations while getting well below a competitive salary.

        • Michelle on April 14, 2019 at 5:17 pm

          Why pay so little? The bible says a workman is worthy of his pay ans that equates to adequate pay alo. Your congregation must be ver poor.

  24. Ben on March 26, 2018 at 12:44 pm

    Hey Carey,
    Thanks for leading! You are doing a great job!
    For those who don’t enjoy or appreciate these articles, it’s okay to stop reading and complaining.

    • Patrick Halferty on March 27, 2018 at 1:34 pm

      I presume your comment is directed at me since it immediately followed mine. I both “enjoy and appreciate” Carey’s articles. However, Carey is not infallible. He has his opinions and is entitled to them. I was not ‘reading and complaining’; I was reading and evaluating – trying to think critically about what I’m reading. I want to grow my church and be the best leader I can be. I believe Carey welcomes different opinions because he knows it is healthy.

  25. Patrick Halferty on March 26, 2018 at 12:29 pm

    So, biblical language is not appropriate in a church service? Let’s remember something: it’s not a football game, it’s not poolside conversation, it’s not a Tupperware party. It’s a service of worship, where Scripture is read, prayer is offered, songs are sung, and a is benediction given. Sports have code; the Arts have code; most categories of life have code. It’s not wrong to learn code, language. Identity is largely shaped by language. Take away language and you take away identity. Mostly appreciate your posts. Keep up the good work!

    • Mark Fuller on March 26, 2018 at 2:45 pm

      Amen brother!

  26. Allen Forget on March 26, 2018 at 11:29 am

    Hey Carey
    How about these.

    If you are geared to newcomers and “don’t want to be weird” why do we ask people to stand for music and even worse sing along? Last time I was anywhere to listen to live music no one invited me to stand for the songs or to sing along. If we knew the words than we sang. If the mosh pit was building then we stood and joined in but no one invited us to do that. I get the potential confusion this may create for a newcomer if the Christian’s in the room stand up during the music but wouldn’t it be better to just explain it that way to the room so, at least, the new people understand what is happening if people stand up. The music leaders should be aware of this as well.

    Another thought as well. If you call your music program contemporary or refer to it as current and are bringing in electric guitars why do we then have the electric guitars either too low in the volume department or have them mired in reverb and delay so that they sound like an organ? If I am looking for musical pads a keyboard does an excellent job, not a guitar. If the song has elements that drive the song that are guitar driven then the guitar should be driving it and same for keys, drums, triangle, etc.. A lot of this comes down to mix but then we need to acknowledge that the front of house needs to be aware of what the song is suppose to sound like.

    Great thoughts on a Monday!

    • Carey Nieuwhof on April 2, 2018 at 5:45 am

      These are really intriguing questions. I wish I knew the answers. We’re asking similar questions…. And yet our music is connecting with many new people who are unchurched. So we ask and continue.

  27. Bob Meeksd on March 26, 2018 at 10:35 am

    MUSIC, I like all types, Hymns, Contemporary etc. I especially like anointed Choirs
    I find that more people get into the service and Music/Worship with Hymns and songs that tell a story. The can more easily relate and even join in. Contemporary I like more as a special, Soloist.
    Take a look at and thier music, look how the congregation gets involved,, participates. This church now has to have 3 morning services and still have a PM service. Having to build a new sanctuary to hold the people. Watch on YouTube…Community Family Church, Independence, Kentucky, and watch the pastor Tommy Bates on Youtube as well. They have strong Youth choir that just got invited to be on “America’s Got Talent because they had over 13 million hits on Facebook. Anointed Music.

  28. D. Mindach on March 26, 2018 at 9:58 am

    The “Unchurched” when they finally come back to God usually have a crises in life, and they are not seeking “church entertainment” but the comfort of coming home to traditional worship. What has worked is fun festivals, that offer entertainment, food and fun, and then welcome newcomers to the traditional service. over the many centuries, this formula has worked, without falling victim to the many passing styles and fads in music.

    • D. Mindach on March 26, 2018 at 1:30 pm

      Entertainment is best left to those events specializing in that business. Worship services are best when familiar, reverent, engaging, and comfortable. “Something different” in music, will (initially) have some appeal, but soon loose it freshness, giving way to constantly chasing the newest pop trends to stay “In fashion”.

      I think this is sad, as this is not worshiping God, but instead pursuing fleeting mas appeal to maintain attendance.

      Give them entertainment outside the Sanctuary, and reverence inside, and they will come! More importantly, it is sustainable, and pays timeless worship to our Lord.

  29. Lori Harris on March 26, 2018 at 8:56 am

    Hey Carey, I think what is missing from worship music is lyrics that make sense! I have never heard such melancholy, depressing songs in minor keys with zero content than I have in the last 10 years. UGH! Get some Jesus music people!

  30. Kevin on March 26, 2018 at 8:50 am

    Hey Carey, just a small suggestion to change the wording in this paragraph “The truth is there’s a there’s a gravitational pull insider almost every church to sacrifice the church’s mission by catering to the church’s members.” Not quite sure what’s being said here…thanks
    Other than that great reminders to be focused on mission

  31. Chris on March 26, 2018 at 8:42 am

    Carey, great stuff. I am curious if your Next and Starting Point courses are available to purchase. I would like to see what you all do as we redesign out path. Thanks

    • John Louk on March 26, 2018 at 9:15 am

      Me too!

    • Carey Nieuwhof on April 2, 2018 at 5:47 am

      We use North Point’s Starting point, and for more on NEXT, listen to my interview with Christine Birch on Episode 13 of the Canadian Church Leader’s Podcast (the OTHER podcast I do). It’s killer. She designed the approach from scratch and gives you the recipe in it.

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