5 Signs You’re A Slave To Leadership Chaos

Like anyone who has led for more than a few years, you’ve probably sensed that things feel a little more chaotic today than they did a few years ago.

You may wonder why, but think about the change you’ve witnessed in the last decade.

Your parents had one inbox. It was paper, and the letter carrier came once a day.

Mom and dad also had one phone at work and one at home. It rang from time to time, and when they weren’t around, there was voicemail.

So…think about it. How many inboxes do you have?

I counted. I have 11 inboxes. Eleven. (And I’m sure I’ve missed some…)

For the record, that includes text messages, a public and private email inbox, two Facebook inboxes, Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIn, Skype (yeah…I use it for podcasting), Asana and even my bank has a private secure message inbox (horribly clunky, but still, if they want to talk to me…).

This doesn’t account for hundreds of ‘message requests’ that come in from people I don’t follow or friend on Insta or Facebook.

And we haven’t even talked about people knocking on your door, swinging by your house, or sending you good old fashioned snail mail or stuff via courier.

Every time you look at your phone or watch there are eleventy billion people who want a slice of you.

Ever wonder why anxiety is on the rise?

Welcome to 2019.

And you know what this leads to? Chaos.

You’re a Slave To…Something

In an interview I did with my friend Frank Bealer on how to boost your productivity in high demand seasons, Frank so rightly pointed out if you’re not a slave to your calendar (scheduling your priorities), then you’re a slave to chaos.


I understand what it’s like to be a slave to chaos. As a leader in my thirties, as our church grew and the demands at home rose with two growing kids, I didn’t know how to respond or even weigh the growing number of demands on my leadership.

My terrible formula was that more demands equal more hours, and it was a recipe for failure. It eventually led me to burnout.

On the other side of burnout, I took some time to rethink everything and adopted some new patterns and strategies.

To my surprise, my productivity didn’t just improve, it soared.

As our church kept growing, I organized my life around a fixed calendar and started managing my time energy and priorities in new ways. Those changes led me to not only get ahead on growth, but to go on to write four books, launch a weekly podcast, spend more time speaking at conferences and events, and have more time at home with my family. It even helped me move exercise into my regular rhythm.

I teach you the system I’ve adopted (and that now thousands of leaders have adopted) in The High Impact Leader Course.

Today’s (Thursday, January 31st) is the final day to get the High Impact Leader at current pricing before the price goes up at midnight and 5 new bonuses go away.

If you want to get your life and leadership back in 2019, you can learn more about the High Impact Leader here.

You don’t have to fall victim to the constant demands on you, but so many leaders do.

So how do you know you’re a slave to leadership chaos?

Here are 5 signs:

If you don't have a system to deal with all the demands on you as a leader, you become a slave to chaos. Click To Tweet

1. You feel like you have no control

Probably the greatest source of anxiety for leaders is the sense that they have no control.

Because you’re so bombarded by information, opportunities, obligations and requests, there’s a constant sense that life is happening to you, and you don’t really have much choice.

You try to respond by becoming busier and busier, but it doesn’t help.

For every extra hour or every ounce of extra effort you put in, you get further behind.

What’s worse, is that busy has a price. It’s not just a price you pay. It’s a price everybody pays: your family, your team, your church.

If being busy is your strategy to stay in control, you need a new strategy.

Busy has a price. It’s not just a price you pay. It’s a price everybody pays: your family, your team, your church. Click To Tweet

2. You don’t lead. You play Whac-a-mole.

Ever go to the fair and play Whac-a-mole?

That’s the game where they give you a boxing glove and gophers pop up out of holes…and you have to whack them back in.

If you have eleven inboxes, lead a staff, and have a bunch of people you’re responsible for, that’s what leadership can feel like.

You answer one message, and four more come in. You solve one problem, and three more pop up. (Here’s a 20-second Whac-a-Mole video that can be a bit therapeutic…)

While successfully whacking all the moles in a given day can make you feel like you’ve won, you haven’t.

Because that’s not really leadership.

The best leadership doesn’t just respond to what’s happening, it anticipates and shapes what’s going to happen. And you never have time for that if all you do is respond to constant bombardment around you.

The best leadership doesn't just respond to what's happening, it anticipates and shapes what's going to happen. Click To Tweet

3. Other people run your to-do list

So you have a long list of things you need to do. You know they matter. They’re important.

Question: why do they never seem to get done?

Well, when your leadership is out of control, other peoples’ priorities hijack yours.

Here’s an example.

For me, one of the most important things I can do is write.

Whether that’s my next sermon series, next message, next book, next blog post or questions for my next podcast, writing is hands down one of the most important things I do.

Yet every text, every phone call, every email, every knock on the door is someone asking you to get their priority done, not yours.

But nobody ever cancels their meeting with me and tells me “Hey Carey, I just wanted to make sure you had enough time to prepare for Sunday and edit your next book.”

Instead, I get dozens (or often, hundreds) of emails every day asking me for something someone else wants.

The principle: No one will ever ask you to complete your top priority. They will only ask you to complete theirs.

No one will ever ask you to complete your top priority. They will only ask you to complete theirs. Click To Tweet

4. You are bad at saying no

Many leaders, including most pastors, don’t like saying no. And I admit, it’s hard.

I still want to say yes to everything that comes my way (well, almost everything).

So why are we so bad at saying no?

It’s because we want to be liked. Which moves us leaders into a serious problem: Leadership requires you to take people to destinations they would not go without your leadership.

Why is leadership hard? Because it requires you to take people to destinations they would not go without your leadership. Click To Tweet

Stop for a moment and, if you would, re-read that sentence.

Do you see the challenge?

Leadership is inherently difficult because it requires a leader to take people where they don’t naturally want to go.

So you have a choice as a leader.

You can focus on leading people, or focus on being liked.

When you focus on being liked, you will instinctively try to please the people you’re leading. And when you do, you will become confused.

Pleasing people is inherently confusing because people don’t agree. One person wants it one way. Another wants it another way.

And soon, you’re bending over backward to make everyone happy, which of course means that in the end, you will end up making no one happy, including yourself. It’s actually a recipe for misery for everyone.

It’s also a recipe for inertia.

If you focus on being liked, you won’t lead. You will never have the courage to do what needs to be done.

I teach you how to say no nicely in the High Impact Leader course. That skill alone has radically changed my life and made my leadership soar.

If you focus on being liked, you won’t lead. You will never have the courage to do what needs to be done. Click To Tweet

5. You always cheat the most important things

You already know this, but you have core priorities that are important but never urgent.

You know you should spend more time with

Your family

Working on your marriage

Taking better care of yourself

Doing long term planning

Working harder on your content


Etc etc etc

And the reason you don’t do this…is the urgent demands on your time always win out.

You cheat your family, yourself, and even the most important aspects of your job.

After all, the number one thing you say to your family should never be sorry. 

The number one thing you say to your family should never be sorry. Click To Tweet

Beat the Chaos

For me, the only way out of the chaos was to work hard to develop a whole new approach to life and leadership.

I realized if I didn’t get a fundamentally new approach, the demands of leadership would swallow me whole.

It took me several years on the other side of burnout, and lots of reflection, counselling and leadership coaching, to come up with the approach that moved me way beyond surviving.

The approach was so radically effective, with my productivity soaring and my time at home being so much greater, that a few years ago the #1 question other leaders asked me was this: how do you get it all done?

The more I thought about it, the more I realized that the approach I was taking would work for other leaders too.

That approach is what I teach you in The High Impact Leader.

It’s a system that’s now been proven by over 2000 leaders who have taken the course and thousands more I’ve trained in person while teaching the method.

Today is the last day to get the High Impact Leader at last year’s prices. We even added five extra bonuses. And it’s the final day to get the Coaching Edition (which won’t be available tomorrow).

My goal? To help you thrive, not just survive, in life and leadership.

If today’s the day to get your life and leadership back, head on over to The High Impact Leader now.

So what’s in the course?

It’s ten short sessions with a serious application guide that you can complete on demand, at your own pace.

It’s the most comprehensive content I’ve ever created for leaders to help you reclaim HOURS every day so you can become more effective at work and more present at home. When your time, energy, and priorities are all working together for you, it’ll impact everything you do.

  • You become a better leader, because you’re doing what you do best when you’re at your best
  • You become a better spouse, because you’re focused at home
  • You become a better parent, neighbor, and friend, because you actually have time off to relax and engage

Here’s what some alumni are saying:

Just wow.  Thank you, thank you. The High Impact Leader Course has helped me in a ton of ways. I feel SO, SO, SO much more freedom. — Dave, Sioux Falls, SD

A game-changer. — Pam, Red Rock, CO

I’ve been sticking to the fixed calendar for 7 days now, and I’m finding that far more is getting done than before.  I’m hitting my goals and what few deadlines I have, and with more “free” time than I anticipated. This is a great change for me! Stephen, Natchitoches, LA  

These principles will free you to thrive in every area of your life.

You can learn more and gain instant access today.

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5 Signs You’re A Slave To Leadership Chaos

1 Comment

  1. Bud Brown on February 2, 2019 at 11:20 am

    Ah, the power of focus – evaluating your work, then paring your portfolio down to the 3 or 4 things you do best (or only you can do) – and saying “No” to the rest.

    The power of No. Wish I’d learned it 40 years ago.

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