5 Key Questions You Should Ask If Your Church Isn’t Growing


Chances are you didn’t get into leadership to see your church stop accomplishing its mission.

One of the primary missions of the local church is to reach new people with Christ’s love, which, naturally, implies growth.

But almost every church (and almost every organization) faces seasons in which growth stops. Some haven’t seen growth in years…or decades.

I was on a call with some leaders recently from a large growing church who told me that last year was the first time in 15 years they hadn’t grown. They’re addressing it and are back on track, but it was a tough year.

I can relate. I have been in church leadership for 19 years. We have seen growth almost every year (the majority of which has been from previously unchurched people), but there were two periods in which we stalled out. Those are tough seasons for leaders.

What was effective before has stopped being effective now

A malaise sets in that’s difficult to describe

As a leader, you’re not exactly sure how to get things back on track

Ideally, you’d be asking questions before you hit a slump, but life isn’t that simple, is it?

So if you’re in a slump or see one coming, what do you do?

One of the best things any leader can do when they’re in a tough spot is to stop making assumptions and start asking questions. Our assumptions got us to where we are, but they won’t necessarily get us where we need to go.

Here are 5 telling questions every leader can ask when their church stops growing:

If your church isn't growing, stop making assumptions. Start asking questions. Click To Tweet

1. Is our sense of mission white-hot?

Effective churches have a white-hot sense of mission. It’s far more than a piece of paper on a wall or something the board recites at annual meetings, it lives daily in the soul of countless people in the congregation. It motivates all the action in the organization. It consumes people.

Often a church that has stopped growing has lost the urgency behind its mission. This is doubly sad in the case of a church because our mission is actually Christ’s mission…it’s the spread of the Gospel into the world for which Jesus died.

Leaders and congregations that are effective in accomplishing their mission are consumed by their mission. It always burns white hot.

Leaders and congregations that are effective in accomplishing their mission are consumed by their mission. It always burns white-hot. Click To Tweet

2. Are we focused on unchurched people or on ourselves?

So there’s a tendency you and I have as human beings. Our natural drift is to focus on ourselves. Not on Christ. Not on others.

The gravitational pull of any church is toward insiders, not outsiders.

Left unattended, your church will become a place where the preferences of the members trump passion for the mission.

There are two primary ways to address this drift:

In every decision, focus on who you want to reach, not who you want to keep.

Commit to losing yourself for the sake of finding others.

I completely understand that people automatically respond with “well what about me and my needs (or the needs of our faithful members)”?

I believe Jesus said something about finding your life in the process of losing it. People who focus on helping others and honouring Christ soon discover that their needs are met far more deeply than they ever experienced otherwise.

3. Has our strategy or approach become dated?

What got you here won’t necessarily get you there.

While the mission of the church is eternal, strategy should shift from generation to generation. This day it needs to shift even faster than that.

Identifying a dated strategy is easy if you’re a new leader who has taken over from someone else. It is much harder when you’ve led in a context for more than 5 years.

The challenge in long term leadership is that the changes that you introduced may have been novel and effective when you introduced them, but it’s not 1995 anymore, or 2005 for that matter.

How do you tell if you’re strategy is dated?

When it stops being effective.

When you see very few people in the next generation adopting the approach or strategy in question.

If you want more on how church is changing, here are a few posts that can help:

10 Things That Ain’t Church (Some Thoughts On Irregular and Non-Attendance)

5 Reasons Charismatic Churches Are Growing and Attractional Church Is Past Peak

Drew Powell and Matt Warren on Why Attractional Church is Past Peak, Why It’s Changing and What’s Next

The mission of the church is eternal. The method is temporary. The challenge, of course, is it’s easy to love the method more than the mission.

But in the future church, churches that love their method more than they love the mission will die.

In the future church, churches that love their method more than they love the mission will die. Click To Tweet

4. Are we on top of the constant change in our culture?

While you’re studying your strategy, you might also want to study culture. It’s changing, radically and quickly.

I believe when historians look back on our generation, they will see it as a crack in history. We now live in a post-Christian, post-modern world. That’s true in Canada. It’s increasingly true in the United States.

In my experience, many of us in church leadership don’t really grasp the enormity of the change going on around us.

Change is hard. But irrelevance is even harder. Unimplemented change becomes regret.

Change is hard. But irrelevance is even harder. Unimplemented change becomes regret. Click To Tweet

5. When was the last time I personally invited someone to church?

This is a tough one.

The reality is many Christians, for a variety of reasons, don’t actually spend time with that many non-Christians.

Sometimes it’s fear-based. That’s a shame because Jesus seemed to like outsiders even better than insiders. He had no problem hanging around people who didn’t want to hang out at church. Jesus had no problem loving people who didn’t yet love him.

Sometimes it’s calendar-based. The church runs so many programs that Christians are at church 5-7 nights a week. You don’t have time to build relationships with anyone outside, let alone be a family. That’s why at our church, we only do community group one night a week. For the rest, we want our people to be home with their families as well as involved in local sports leagues, involved in their local schools and active in the community building friendships with people Jesus loves but who never attend church.

Sometimes it’s just a practical issue. If you’re on church staff, unchurched people rarely ask you for time. Churched people call you all day long and ask for your time and attention. And so you find yourself so absorbed with the work of the church that you miss the mission of the church.

If almost no one at your church knows any unchurched people, it’s no mystery why your church isn’t growing.

So why not go build some real friendships? And before you say we should be ‘in the world but not of it’, please read the Gospels again.

Jesus had no problem loving people who didn't yet love him. Click To Tweet

Got Any Questions You’d Ask? 

There are probably some other questions you’d ask too. I’d love you to add to this list in the comments section.

So how about you? What questions have you asked when your church has stopped growing?

5 Key Questions You Should Ask If Your Church Isn’t Growing


  1. Ron Beed on May 28, 2021 at 7:38 pm

    Carey. Sometime ago you had an article on the subject of Critical Thinking. It was a very very good article …but true to form for me I saved it in a computer location that is now lost. Can you repeat it or the reference for me? Many thanks. Ron Beed

  2. Gina Regis on July 13, 2020 at 7:36 am

    Hi Carey,
    I just wanted to let you know that your work is so timely and relevant for the season we are in. Thank you for your obedience and the rich wisdom and insight you share with fellow church leaders like myself. We are better because of your work and dedication. I can only imagine that intentionally putting out daily, relevant content packaged in an easy-to-understand way is not an easy feat. So I just wanted to say THANK YOU.
    May God bless you, your family, and your influence in the days to come.
    With gratitude for your work,

  3. Franc on July 12, 2020 at 8:40 am

    Thanks, For sharing!

    • Mark Holman on July 12, 2020 at 4:15 pm

      Here’s something that I will say about something else my wife and I had lunch at a restaurant talking to the staff when this woman acted really nasty towards my wife being Monday morning we’re back to face masks because of our Governor is all wound up because a large group didn’t wear masks and avoid social distances rule, this woman was filled with evil hate started in on my wife scolded her for taking her mask off, well I stepped in and I said Psalms 91:10 that “No plague shall not come near our tent”, and I’m a Born Again Believer . Well she pushed her husband away in total disgust, well you can tell that she is a GOD HATER, oh well I forgive her for being that way. Just pray that others will witness to her also.

  4. RK on July 17, 2019 at 3:44 pm


    • J. Livingston on January 18, 2020 at 11:32 am

      Greetings Brother Carey,
      First, I thank you for the many answers to my questions without knowing who I am. I read you every chance I get, you have blessed me and helped me wrap my mind around a couple of mind bending church concepts. I would love to join your Masterclass Leadership group, but I am unable at this time. Am a pastor of a church start in Jonesboro, Georgia (20 mins. south of the Atlanta Airport). I’m called to engage, nourish, restore and equip young adults for Christian service. Your posts on engagement are particularly interesting to me. My question is somewhat difficult for me to reconcile, so I thought you might point me in the right direction or give me some resources to read or purchase. HOW CAN I ENGAGE MY DEMOGRAPHIC? Please advise.

    • Carey Nieuwhof on July 11, 2020 at 6:50 am

      Easy as 1-2-3.

  5. Josh on May 29, 2019 at 9:12 am

    Hey Carey, thanks for the great blog. Just finished listening to your podcast episode on church growth and I am interested in the masterclass, but there’s a problem (I know I shouldn’t start with the objections, but here it is).

    I’m a seminarian about halfway through my “official” education, and about 2 years out from receiving my first call as a pastor (God willing). My denomination is TERRIBLE about growth and making it a priority, its a theological hangup of some complexity that I’m hoping to work to change. But the real question is this, should I be looking at this kind of class now, before I’m called to lead a church, or would it be more effective for me to revisit this a little closer to being at a congregation? I don’t want to put everything off until I’m in that position, but I also want it to be a good use of my time and resources, especially since a graduate student/seminarian isn’t exactly a well funded situation!

    Thanks for all you do!

    • Dillon on May 29, 2019 at 9:28 am

      Hey Josh,

      Dillon here, Carey’s assistant. I would love to help!

      One thing to note about the masterclass is that once you get access to it, you have access for life. So if you bought it now, you would also have access to it later while you are in your ministry.

      If you have any inquiries about the financial parts of the course, feel free to email me at dillon@careynieuwhof.com

  6. 4 on May 25, 2019 at 12:32 pm


  7. Gord on May 23, 2019 at 10:05 am

    Can I get a copy of this emailed?
    Thank you

    • Dillon Smith on May 28, 2019 at 5:08 pm

      Hey Gord,

      Dillon here, Carey’s Assistant, I am so sorry, but we do not have a pdf download of this post. We are looking into turning some of our posts into PDF’s, but have not taken any action yet. If there is a different way I can help, feel free to email me at dillon@careynieuwhof.com.


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