Valuing the People Around You

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If you want to attract and keep great people around you, value them.

As I watch my own patterns, I realize this truth – I gravitate to where I feel valued most.  My guess is you do too. Probably your favourite people to be around value your input, listen to your ideas and respect you both on an intellectual and personal level.  You feel appreciated and you feel like you’re making a difference.

If you want a deeper, closer relationship with your spouse and kids, value them.  Desire deeper friendships?  Value people.  Want to be a better boss or co-worker? Value people.  If you’re a ministry leader in charge of volunteers, value those who serve with you.

Conversely, if you want people around you to lose heart, make them feel like they don’t matter.  That rule works on a personal and professional level.

Valuing people sounds easy, but it can be challenging:

  • Most of us tend to take for granted those close to us.  That undercommunicates value and sells the relationship short.
  • Insecure people can’t value others because it threatens their own sense of worth.
  • People feel like they are valued in different ways: some prefer public or private verbal recognition,  some look for input and a seat at the table, others appreciate gifts, some just like time with you.  Often, it’s a sustained combination of all these that communicates value most deeply.

Who do you value?  This coming week (or even today), how are you going to let them know?

What makes you feel valued?  What are some of the best ways you communicate value to other people?

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We've all been there before...

  • You need to refresh your vision for the future but know that change will be an issue for that person.
  • You're overstaffed (or missing a key role) and can't find the right person to fill the role.
  • You aren't reaching enough new people even though you've tried everything that's working for other churches.
  • You can see the issue but aren't confident in what to do about it.

And with another Sunday morning coming up, it'll just have to wait until next week when you have a few minutes to figure it out.

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Carey Nieuwhof
Carey Nieuwhof

Carey Nieuwhof is a best-selling leadership author, speaker, podcaster, former attorney, and church planter. He hosts one of today’s most influential leadership podcasts, and his online content is accessed by leaders over 1.5 million times a month. He speaks to leaders around the world about leadership, change, and personal growth.