Aaron Harris knew from the time he was young that he was attracted to other men.
After running from the church as a teen he ran back into the church in his twenties, deeply convinced that Jesus is the only way.
Aaron shares what he wishes was different in the way the church talks about same sex issues and why he still loves Jesus and the church.
Welcome to Episode 57 of the Podcast!
Links Mentioned in this Episode
Lasting Impact: 7 Powerful Conversations That Can Help Your Church Grow by Carey Nieuwhof
Secrets of an Unlikely Convert by Rosaria Butterfield
Out of a Far Country by Christopher Yuan
A People to Be Loved by Preston Sprinkle
The Bible & Homosexual Practice by Robert Gagnon
Washed and Waiting by Wesley Hill
Torn by Justin Lee
Bible Gender & Sexuality by James Brownson
Cross in the Closet by Timothy Kurek
Love is an Orientation by Andrew Marin
Things You Can Do Right Away
Aaron Harris opens up about being gay and the vulnerabilities he faced during his painful journey to find faith. Here are a few things he learned along the way:
- Start with common ground. You don’t want to be quick to point out the sins of another person. It won’t get you anywhere, and everyone involved will have their guard up. Remember this: Anyone you connect with is a child of God sitting in the balance of love and judgment, and in that moment, you can push them toward or away from Jesus. Start with a neutral subject, something you can both agree on, and build trust. There is a polarization of so many issues tearing apart the church and its people, but keep in mind that Jesus put ministry before theology. He started with grace, relationship and love.
- Read a book with an opposing view. Don’t be afraid of the information that might counter the information you perceive to be true. Pray to see a wisdom of what’s true and no true so you can see the actual value of the information and not have to make a decision. Don’t look at is as a way to change your perspective, but give yourself the opportunity to see what someone else sees.
- Build a relationship with someone who doesn’t have your sexual orientation. Most people know someone who’s gay, but to actually get to know them is an entirely different thing. God doesn’t need you to judge them; he does want you to love them. This is a person with a story, with heartache, with pain. Seek to find the unanswered prayers that person is experiencing.
Quotes from Aaron
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