Pete Scazzero will be the first to tell you that while he was successful on the outside as a leader, he was immature on the inside, and his wife had had enough. That moved Pete on a journey to figure out what was wrong and how to make it right.
Raw, honest and gut wrenching, in this interview, Pete will help you gauge your level of emotional and spiritual maturity and help you make progress.
Welcome to Episode 230 of the podcast. Listen and access the show notes below or search for the Carey Nieuwhof Leadership Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts and listen for free.
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3 Insights from Pete
1. Self awareness is key to being emotionally mature
Ever wonder if others see you the same way you see yourself? Emotional maturity is tricky. Start with self awareness. Do you have the ability to recognize what’s going on inside of you and integrate your feelings in a healthy way? Next, take a look at your pace. Is your life slowed down enough to be with Jesus or are you doing things for yourself and sending him a shout out from the back of the line? Finally, if you want to really find out how you’re doing, just ask the people around you. Knowing how they experience your personality will shine a spotlight on who you truly are.
2. Christians often value kindness over honesty
It happens a lot in leadership doesn’t it? We don’t always tell the truth.
Sometimes we actually believe that being nice to someone is more helpful than being honest. But the thing is that we’re not actually helping anyone if we’re not being truthful – The truth shall set you free – right?
Now, it’s definitely important to choose being respectful and thoughtful over imprudent and nasty, but the church is never going to build the kingdom of God by pretending that what’s wrong is right.
3. Struggling with a difficult person is an opportunity for self-growth
Whether at work or home, enduring emotionally immature people is challenging. But instead of pointing the blame and confronting them about what they need to change, consider using this as an opportunity for your own self-improvement.
Look inward. What does your reaction to this situation tell you about yourself? Ask God to change your heart and how you respond. Do the hard work of growing and maturing and everything else will work itself out in time. Work on you before you work on anyone else.
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