CNLP 198: Kristen Ivy on the Impact of Divorce on Kids, Developing a Parenting Strategy, and How to Connect Meaningfully with Your Kids in a Crazy, Busy Life

Kristen Ivy is the Executive Director of Messaging at Orange, one of the largest next-gen ministry organizations in the world.

In a candid and personal conversation, Kristen talks about the impact that her parents divorce had on her, how effective churches connect with parents and kids, and how to better connect with your kids when you have a crazy, busy schedule.

Welcome to Episode 198 of the podcastListen and access the show notes below or search for the Carey Nieuwhof Leadership Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts and listen for free.

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3 Insights from This Episode

1. Challenging seasons are opportunities to reshape and redefine your story

Whether personal or professional, we all encounter disappointments. When the story isn’t writing out as planned, one’s sense of well-being can be rocked and create emptiness.

Challenging times are opportunities to redefine and reshape bad scenarios into better realities. Life will always have hard seasons, but God is still present in the mess and ready to show himself in the new.

2. Best practices have a place at home, too

Parents place high expectations on themselves and then feel guilty when they come up short. But guilt never made anyone a better parent. Instead of dwelling on not measuring up, proactively create a strategy that allows you to be more intentional at home (or on-the-go). Best practices are important in the office, but they matter at home, too.

Here are Kristen’s go-to rhythms for connecting with family throughout the day.

Rise & Shine: Start the day with words of encouragement. Set your family up for success right from the start so they can work hard, be kind and have fun.

On-the-Go: Drive time is a huge opportunity to connect. If family is in the car together, put the phone and electronics away to make the most of those car moments.

Table Time:  Whether on-the-go, in a restaurant or at home, leverage meals as a time to connect relationally with meaningful conversations.

Bed Time: End the day with time to reconnect, listen to what may be on their hearts, and reset for tomorrow.

3. Each phase of parenting matters and goes by too fast

There are about 936 weeks from the time a child is born until graduating high school. What happens during those weeks is critical to the foundational shaping of a person.

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John S. Dickerson started in journalism straight out of college and soon found himself writing for the New York Times, CNN and USA Today. Today, he’s a 35 year old pastor of a mega church. John talks about what leaders can learn from journalists, and about the coming massive cultural change as we move into a post-truth, post-fact culture and how the church can respond.

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