Episode 841: When Control Goes Toxic: Lysa TerKeurst on How to Stop Being a Rescuer and Why You Keep Trying to Control the Narrative

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You keep rescuing people who never asked to be saved, and calling it ministry. Lysa TerKeurst joins me to unpack why control so often disguises itself as concern, why you should stop trying to control the narrative, and how to know when your desire to control has gone toxic.

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Carey Nieuwhof
Carey Nieuwhof

Carey Nieuwhof is a best-selling leadership author, speaker, podcaster, former attorney, and church planter. He hosts one of today’s most influential leadership podcasts, and his online content is accessed by leaders over 1.5 million times a month. He speaks to leaders around the world about leadership, change, and personal growth.