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My name is Carey Nieuwhof. I'm a husband, a dad to two sons and a daughter-in-law, and the founding and teaching pastor of Connexus Church north of Toronto Canada.

I'm also incredibly passionate about helping leaders lead like never before. That's why I write this blog, write books, host a leadership podcast and produce courses like the The High Impact Leader Course.

As a kid, I decided I wanted to be a lawyer. I'm not sure what needs to be wrong with a kid to want to be a lawyer, but that's my story.

I got distracted along the way. At 16 I walked into a local radio station and asked them to hire me, and to my surprise, they did. For the next 8 years radio was one of my part time jobs in my then hometown of Midland Ontario and later in Toronto.

I got into the law school of my dreams only to have two incredible things happen. I met the most amazing woman I've ever met in my first year of law school. We got married before we graduated. By far...she's the best thing to come out of law school for me!

But the second thing that happened was I experienced a call to ministry. I'd been a Christian since I was a young teenager, but I went through a crisis of faith in my late teens and early twenties. Before attending law school, I recommitted my life to Jesus. At the time, I simple thought it would mean I practiced law as a Christian (yes...that is possible).

Honestly, the call confused me as much as it compelled me. I spent a few years trying to figure out what it meant, praying through it and consulting wise people I knew. I finished law and out of obedience, enrolled in seminary.

In 1995, as I was wrapping up seminary, I started ministry as a student pastor among three little mainline churches an hour north of Toronto. When I started, one of the churches had an average attendance of 6 (not making that up). Much to my surprise (I never thought I'd stay this long), I had discovered a community I'm still a part of almost 20 years later.

Our church has changed everything in those two decades...the music, the buildings, our governance, our mission, our vision....everything, really. We even left our denomination and now are a multisite church with two locations reaching over 1200 people each weekend. And Connexus is a North Point Strategic Partner. I love our team and love the mission we're on together.

Along the way, I developed a passion for helping other leaders lead like never before. That's evolved into what you see here...and I hope it helps you and your team in some meaningful way.

Thanks so much for joining the conversation.

If you want more, just visit my Start Here page or take any of these simple steps:

So appreciate you!

- Carey

87 Comments

  1. Ray Svanberg on May 13, 2017 at 2:57 am

    Hello Carey! I´m receiving your mail. I´m a methodist pastor in Norway. Some times ago you wrote about “5 Significant attitude differences that separate growing and declining churches”. This was very interesting. I have told about this in our congregation and board. Now I´m wondering if this is some conclusions from research about church growth or is it your conclusions from research about this? I´m wondering where I can find more about this subject. Thank you for your mails! God bless!



  2. Shawn Tussey on March 9, 2017 at 9:29 pm

    Carey!! I really appreciated the podcast with Arron Harris and was wondering if I could use it in a educational settIng with pastors about homosexuality and our approach to ministry? Also I was wondering do u have a transcript of the podcast? Thank u so much!!

    Your brother in Christ

    Shawn Tussey



    • Carey Nieuwhof on March 10, 2017 at 7:29 am

      Hey Shawn…glad you found it helpful and thanks for the encouraging words. As long as you’re not re-selling or publicly re-distributing the podcast, sure you can use it. Feel free to share it with your group. I don’t have a transcript for my episodes, but thanks for asking!



      • Shawn Tussey on March 10, 2017 at 7:44 am

        Thank you and God bless u brother!



  3. Carey D on February 9, 2017 at 4:48 pm

    Carey, just wanted to thank you for a post that you wrote. My pastor forwarded me your “5 Ways. ..Worship Wars” article today, and the timing couldn’t have been better. We’ve sensed God’s leading in expanding/changing the way we do worship — not only (but including) musical style — for some time now. And in just a couple of Sundays we’re making the transition. Our church has been largely supportive (with a handful of expected naysayers:-) — but it’s still a huge shift and a lot more work for our staff. The Lord used your piece to affirm some specific things, and I appreciate your openness and spirit-led writing. Blessings to you and your church. (P.S. I’ve got the same first name, same spelling as you — just one more reason I like you:-)



    • Carey Nieuwhof on February 9, 2017 at 7:06 pm

      That’s awesome Carey. Love hearing this! And great name!~



  4. Borden Scott on February 7, 2017 at 9:34 am

    I’m really appreciating the accessible resources as I work on encouraging renewal in my aged suburban church. I was hoping to work through some of the content in the “5 Essential Strategies for Reaching the Unchurched” booklet that comes with signing up to the e-mail list with some of my leaders by e-mailing copies to them to read and discuss, but wanted to honour the “no part of this work my be reproduced, redistributed, etc.” disclaimer. What is the right forum/process for getting permission to pass this along?



    • Carey Nieuwhof on February 7, 2017 at 9:56 am

      Hey Borden, thanks for asking! As long as its for internal team use…go ahead. Thanks!



      • Borden Scott on February 7, 2017 at 9:58 am

        Great, thanks!



  5. Will on January 24, 2017 at 5:56 pm

    I could not find a link to your email, so I will just leave this here.
    Carey, thanks so much for making your church growth resources available via podcast, blog, book, etc. I am in my early thirties, and I have been the lead minister at the same congregation since I was 19. We live in a very heavily churched area of the Bible Belt, but we have been blessed with growth (although much of it transfer type rather than truly unchurched people). Now that we are on more solid financial footing and have improved our ministry offerings, I hope to turn our attentions more outward. Your resources about the 200 member ceiling have been very helpful in this regard. The church I grew up in has hovered just below 200 for many years as has the congregation my wife grew up in. Churches in our tradition are completely autonomous and usually rural and small. Our heritage places a lot of emphasis on pastoral care from the lead minister, and I think you are right to say his/her ability to do efficient care alone caps out around 200.
    I am grateful for the resources and the encouragement. If we are ever in Ontario, I would love to visit Connexus.
    Blessings.



  6. Dave Kahle on September 30, 2016 at 1:05 pm

    I’m one of the formerly active church-goers who are done with institutional religion. I can honestly report that I see spiritual issues more clearly, I have far more relationships and engagements with other Christians, my prayer life has blossomed and I am closer to God then ever before. Send me your mailing address and I’ll send you a copy of one of my books, Is the Institutional Church Really the Church?



    • Old Sarge on October 11, 2016 at 9:24 am

      Is the human body organized? Nothing wrong with concept the Church being organized, but indeed some of the organs needs some care. The old cliché, “Don’t throw the baby out with the bath water” is true in this case. No group has it all together as we are all supposed to be growing in the knowledge of Christ. Christ instituted the Church at Pentecost. Paul defined its offices and its functions as well as its doctrines. Hence it is organized and we are to meet together and work together as a Body.



      • Dave Kahle on October 11, 2016 at 2:01 pm

        I agree with everything you have said. Yes, Christ instituted the church. However, the institutional church is not that church. It’s a man made substitute that usurps the agenda, squanders resources, promotes a passive ‘lukewarm’ form of Christianity, turns the young generation off, and inoculates half the population from every considering Christ, because it substitutes ‘church’ for ‘Christ.’



  7. Rev. Dr. John Landis on September 2, 2016 at 11:19 am

    Carey, I just wanted to say thank you. You write about the things that I intend to write about and never seem to get to. Your information is helpful, easy to read and insightful. i don’t always agree . . . and that is a good thing, You always make me think.. 🙂 So please continue the good work in all of your ministries. Know that it is appreciated and significantly contributes to God’s work.



  8. Jennifer Funderburg on August 26, 2016 at 1:48 pm

    i didnt get the email.



  9. The Woods on August 21, 2016 at 6:30 pm

    Enjoyed the post on how to know if you’re a pharisee. As a side note: On your home page there is an ad that reads something to the effect of, “how to reach the un-churched in your community”. I am personally equally concerned about reaching the “churched”. Is our mission to get people “churched”? I am not sure where that term came from; but, it makes my skin crawl. Why not “How to reach the lost – or – the unregenerate, etc.” Being “Churched”, never saved anyone. In fact (and I am sure you will agree that) the Pharisees were very “Churched”. Just hoping you think on this and maybe consider using a different term.



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  11. Paul Woods on August 8, 2016 at 4:35 pm

    I’m looking for a good (and hopefully FREE) website to park the mp3’s of my messages so that church members can listen to them from the website or download them to listen later on their iPhones or what-not. Any suggestions?



    • Estevan on August 16, 2016 at 1:14 pm

      If you are looking for a free solution, my church has used YouTube for quite a while with pretty good success. Very budget friendly solution, just be sure you go through the process of becoming verified so you can increase your upload length.



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  13. sarahorn on July 8, 2016 at 10:35 pm

    Hi, Adrienne! This is Sara, Carey’s assistant. 🙂

    Thanks so much for asking about using Carey’s blog posts! As long as you link back to Carey’s site, you’re welcome to use it. Thank you!



  14. Timothy Steele on June 23, 2016 at 7:09 am

    Carey – absolutely LOVE your podcast. Thank you for making sure we hear all the angles and sides to various churches, and the reality of relating to culture! So good! In one of your podcasts about speaking to the next generation, a thought popped into my head that I’ve been searching for a long time: Are there any statistics that show the younger generation prefers a more contemporary church service over a more traditional church service? I always hear people speak one way or the other, but there are no concrete facts. Can you guide me to any known information you have? Keep up the great work – I thank God for you!



    • Carey Nieuwhof on June 23, 2016 at 8:00 am

      Thanks Timothy. Great question. The data is all over the map. But the bottom line for me is that millennials do NOT want irrelevance or inauthenticity. A bit of tradition done well is okay…but if you’re doing it to keep older people happy you’re dead in the water with the next generation. I just spent a day this week with a pastor of a church of 20,000 with a ton of millennials and they’re doing dh’s, hip hop worship and many other things like that which younger adults love. So I think you need to pick a vein and do it extremely well and be passionate about reaching them. My friend who leads the large church is…and it shows.



      • Timothy Steele on June 23, 2016 at 8:05 am

        Thanks! I love the bottom line: You need to do it with relevance and authenticity – and be passionate about reaching people.



  15. Patrick Aldea on June 12, 2016 at 8:26 pm

    Hello, how can i get the free PDF created by Brian Orme talked about in podcast 18?



    • Carey on June 13, 2016 at 12:30 pm

      Hi, Patrick! Go to this link – https://careynieuwhof.com/2015/01/episode18/ – scroll down the page until you see the “Free Download: Brian’s Tips on Creating Shareable Content” and there is a form you can fill out to receive the free PDF. Thanks for listening!



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  17. Velocity Church on May 23, 2016 at 7:17 am

    I’m trying to listen to past/current podcast. I keep getting a (!) error and cannot listen to many of the podcast. Any suggestions. I have really enjoyed the podcast that will play.



    • sarahorn on May 23, 2016 at 9:58 am

      Hi, there! This is Sara, Carey’s assistant. I’d love to help if I can. What stream/device are you listening to the podcasts on? iTunes? Tune-in? Another system? And are you listening on your phone or laptop/computer? Let me know, and I can see if there are any options/solutions that can help. Thanks!



      • Velocity Church on May 23, 2016 at 10:10 am

        Sara, thank you for your help. I am trying to listen on iTunes on my Macbook Pro. I’ve contacted Apple and Tunes. They think it may be a problem on your end. Other podcast from other leadership ministries work without a problem. Half of the podcasts will play and the other half will not play, even if I click on them. If I try to download them, I get the (!) error. Thanks for your help. I’ve really enjoyed the podcasts I have been able to listen too.



        • Velocity Church on May 25, 2016 at 8:47 am

          I’m now having issues listening most of the podcast on both macbook pro and my iPhone.



  18. Bart Jones on May 12, 2016 at 3:30 pm

    Hi Carey, first off….thanks so much for your blog and podcast. I read your blogs and listen to the podcast every week. Thanks for investing in the Kingdom!!

    I do have a question. I’m a new(ish) minister at a church. I served as a youth minister for over 10 years at one church and then got the call to be the lead minister of another church a little over a year ago. Things at the new church are going well. I can see God starting to do some really cool things but I have a concern of keeping my own ego in check. So, here’s my question: when someone is having success in church, how do you keep your own ego in check or remain humble? I have met a couple of megachurch ministers and they seem to have found a way to remain humble. However, I have met others that have a bigger ego than the sun. I was just wondering in all of your experience in ministry and interaction with other ministers if you have found any wisdom that you could pass on about trying to keep my ego in check.

    Thanks again for what you do! Have a great day!!!



  19. norie on April 28, 2016 at 2:10 am

    Hi, I am norie from Philippines thank for sharing your leadership experience to us..thank you very much God Bless You.



  20. Neftali B. Lopez on April 8, 2016 at 11:18 am

    Pastor Carey, I am a novice pastor in the Hispanic culture in Indianapolis, IN. During the last two years I have been following your leadership podcasts and I have developed a great admiration for your leadership and your service to the church. I heard in one of your podcast that your “love language” is “words of appreciation”, so I decided to write this and love you in your language. So here it is: I really appreciate you for your integrity, generosity (providing leadership tips for free to all of us), and your easiness of word flow in your speeches. NO, You DO NOT sound goofy, your voice is very mature and solid. And certainly You DO NOT look goofy because your love to others covers a multitude of sins. LOL! May God bless you and keep you collecting God’s Harvest!



  21. Chris Romero on April 7, 2016 at 7:58 pm

    Brother Carey, my name is Chris and I have some issues with most of the material you are putting out there for the Saints concerning ministry. Please contact me, id like to discuss and share with you some things that may help. my email is proof138@hotmail.com. May the Lord bless you and those around you. Much Grace- Brother Chris.



  22. Jason J Hurst on March 3, 2016 at 11:37 am

    Carey! Regular listener to your podcast. I was listening to a prior episode with Aussie Dave and needed an answer. We are trying to get our pastor to transition from using his personal page to using his fan page as his primary source of communication. However, we don’t want to lose the audience that he has built on his personal page. How can we most successfully transfer those users to his fan page with the least bit of attrition? (if at all)



  23. Daniel Graedel on March 2, 2016 at 8:46 am

    Hey Carey! A few days ago by accident (…by good luck) I found your blog. Since this day I dug in daily, I bought your book “Lasting impact”, well and now I have just to take care, that I don’t just read and think, but act, as I read somewhere in your blog ;-). I’m a Pastor of a small rural congregation in Switzerland. But most of the things you say are true for my situation as well. – So I just want to say thanks a lot. – Daniel



    • Carey Nieuwhof on March 2, 2016 at 9:06 am

      Daniel…that’s so awesome. I spoke to church leaders in Basel a few years ago. Cheering for you!



      • Daniel Graedel on March 2, 2016 at 12:52 pm

        Wow, tell me, when you come back to Switzerland…



  24. Robbie Gaines on February 2, 2016 at 12:00 pm

    Hey Carey, I’m a Campus Pastor at Highlands Fellowship-Norton Campus. I am still young and trying to figure out this whole leadership thing. Your podcast has truly helped me be a better leader, so thank you so much for that. I love our Church and it is continually amazing me at everything that God is doing. Our Lead Pastor Allen Jessee is an incredible leader and I really do believe he could help a lot of Churches and people with raising the next generation of leaders. Highlands has started an internship and residency program that is incredible and it truly has blessed the whole Church in amazing ways. Again thank you for all that you do and I really encourage you to look us up at Highlands Fellowship. Thank you!



    • Carey Nieuwhof on February 3, 2016 at 11:36 am

      Thanks for this Robbie. Appreciate getting to know new leaders. Love that you love your leader that much!



  25. Brian Clark on February 2, 2016 at 7:53 am

    Hey Carey! I really mean this when I say it but I have been enriched greatly by your podcasts. I listen to others, but yours is the first on the docket for me. One of the things I would love to have is your list of culture values (I think you call them). I believe it was for your staff, not necessarily something you put on banners for your whole church, am I right? Anyway, one of them was, “Make it happen”. We have core values as a church, but I’m interested in thinking through what staff cultural values we should have.

    Also… a few episodes back you said that whoever left the 300th review on iTunes would get a signed copy of your book – I went on there and was so thrilled to see that the comments were at 299, so I left a comment! My user name was “clarks4x” and you actually read my review on the podcast (kinda cool). And btw, the reason it is clarks4x isn’t b/c I have four kids, but it was just something stupid I came up with in the late 90’s (in high school) b/c I had heard that in the Greek “X” was first letter of “Christ” and so it meant “Clark [me] is for [4] Christ [X]”. Anyway, was I #300?! If not, it’s ok – just thought I’d ask.

    Super super love what you’re doing and it’s a tremendous value to my life. Thanks for the kingdom work you’re doing.



    • Carey Nieuwhof on February 3, 2016 at 11:35 am

      Brian…thanks man. Let’s say you’re #300. The book will be on its way soon. Thanks for the encouragement Brian. So appreciate it and all you do!



  26. Keven Newsome on January 28, 2016 at 11:27 am

    I’m new to the podcast and I’m in listening to episode 61 on the insecure leader. He talked about the 98% of pastors out there, how important their work is, how much can be learned from them, and that no one may ever hear of these pastors. Do you ever purpose to interview any of this 98%? Because nothing makes us feel more like we’re sitting at the kids table than to be completely left out of the conversation.



    • Carey Nieuwhof on January 28, 2016 at 11:45 am

      Keven…I agree. That’s why a good number of my guests are people you’ve never heard of. The 98%. Keep listening and welcome.



  27. David King on January 21, 2016 at 12:03 pm

    Hey Carey just wondering but have you wrote or podcasted about where you spend the majority of your time in ministry to be the most effective in ministry growing/developing new leaders…. with so many things grabbing for our time i know time management is important…



    • Carey Nieuwhof on January 21, 2016 at 3:52 pm

      I do. Listen in on some of the Ask Carey bonus podcasts. I cover it in a few episodes there. Also check out this post: https://careynieuwhof.com/2014/05/how-to-stop-working-7-days-a-week/



      • David King on January 22, 2016 at 11:12 am

        Thank you so much… i just read your post …. you have a lot of great info in there… Can i ask how long did it take for you really have this all in place and were consistent at it?



        • Carey Nieuwhof on January 22, 2016 at 12:55 pm

          I started blogging 8 years ago, very inconsistently. Then three years ago I installed a $79 WordPress theme and started blogging 3x a week. Under that method the blog grew to over a million views a year. Rebranded etc in 2014 and it’s since grown to almost 4 million page views a year. But you don’t need much to get started. Just determination.



  28. Marc Ulrich on January 5, 2016 at 12:36 pm

    Carey I have a couple of questions in regards to the preorder of Lasting Impact. Is there a way to contact you about the order details?



    • Carey Nieuwhof on January 5, 2016 at 2:42 pm

      Marc. For sure. Kevin on our team is handling that. You can reach him at kjennings at rethinkgroup.org. Hope this helps!



  29. Aaron Magnuson on December 7, 2015 at 5:58 pm

    Hey Carey! I’m currently reading chapter 6 of your book Lasting Impact which poses a fantastic thought about the next church staff coming from the marketplace rather than from seminary. Currently this is my experience and I had an interesting thought I wanted to share and couldn’t find a more appropriate avenue to do so. You suggest that the next position to experience a marketplace hire in the church will be the senior pastor but you weren’t sure or couldn’t picture how they would then become educated in the scripture and theology. This has only been fresh in my mind for 15 minutes prior to writing this post but I had a thought. If the gospel is true over all time, all places and to all people, then the life they have been living in the “marketplace” has already taught them something about both scripture and theology. So if we start their education process through the lens of “experiential”, relating scripture and theology to what they have already done, instead of the traditional “academia”, assuming they don’t know anything, it may be more beneficial and more appealing to the men and women going through that process. This means all of the content and curriculum would have to be reworked from a traditional academic text to a more progressive and relatable experiential text. Just a thought and I’d love to hear your thoughts as well!



    • Carey Nieuwhof on December 7, 2015 at 9:31 pm

      Aaron. Great to hear from you! Interesting thought. I think you are on to something. I think training in scripture and theology is critical…but it could be done in a more innovative way that going to a class room for three years as well. To have classical theological education at some level is important. But we can innovate around delivery!



      • Aaron Magnuson on December 8, 2015 at 12:13 pm

        Having been hired from the “marketplace” myself and now starting the process of getting formally educated in scripture and theology via seminary, this is a fascinating topic and question you addressed in that chapter. Thanks for digesting my thought and all the work you put in to get people to move toward the boundaries and challenging leaders to not let things get stale and stagnant. I appreciate you!



  30. Amanda Harrison on November 20, 2015 at 11:40 am

    Hi Carey! We’ve got a local leadership podcast that we’re hosting from Southwest Michigan and I’m wondering what you do to get such great quality on your interviews when your guests are not in the room with you? Would you mind sharing your process – is it calling over the phone, Skype, etc.? Thank you so much!



    • Carey Nieuwhof on November 20, 2015 at 11:53 am

      Sure Amanda. That’s great. Love that you’re a podcaster. So…I use Skype, an ultra high speed internet connect, a good mic (Heil PR40) and ask my guests to use a mic (even their apple ear buds). I record using the E Camm plug in and have a producer who EQs the sound channels separately (mine and the guests) before mastering the episode. Hope that helps!



      • Amanda Harrison on November 20, 2015 at 11:54 am

        Awesome – so helpful. Thanks for being willing to share! Our team really enjoys your podcast. Thanks so much! Amanda



  31. Carey Nieuwhof on November 16, 2015 at 4:26 pm

    Sure Eugene. You can reprint it. Email my assistant Sarah at spiercy at connexuschurch.com.



    • Eugene Wilson on November 16, 2015 at 4:27 pm

      Thank you!



  32. Ray Houser on November 16, 2015 at 3:49 pm

    Is there a procedure for sharing your blogs with my staff. I have one I would like to print for them to discuss in staff meeting. Also, my son is a pastor at a small, growing church in another state. I don’t know if he subscribes to your blog, but there is one I would like to call his attention to. Is there a procedure for emailing one of your blogposts to another person?
    Thanks,
    Ray Houser



    • Carey Nieuwhof on November 16, 2015 at 4:26 pm

      Hi Ray. Thanks! The blog doesn’t print easily, but I turned the topics on my top posts into a book, Lasting Impact: 7 Powerful Conversations That Will Help Your Church Grow. You can get it at http://www.lastingimpactbook.com. To email a particular post, cut and paste the URL into an email and send it that way. 🙂



      • Ray Houser on November 16, 2015 at 6:47 pm

        Thank you.



  33. disqus_RBuCp8zNWX on November 3, 2015 at 8:26 am

    I am a faith leader in another faith and in the midst of a terrible, terrible burnout. I just wanted to thank you for this incredibly helpful post. I was feeling really alone and a bit crazy, but your post helped me to see that what I am experiencing happens to others as well. It is immensely comforting. Though we do not share the same faith, we clearly share the same responsibilities, difficulties, and joys that come with leading a congregation. I am at the beginning of an eight month retreat to help heal from this burnout. I found your post looking for how long it might take me to heal. Seeing that it can take a very long time indeed was both discouraging and helpful. Discouraging becuase, like everyone, I am seduced by the quick fix. Helpful because it is making me more patient with my situation and spacious in giving myself the time and rest I need to heal. Bless you. Bless you a million times over.



    • Carey Nieuwhof on November 3, 2015 at 10:11 pm

      So glad it helped! Praying for you.



  34. Steve Murray on October 23, 2015 at 12:36 pm

    Carey, I first came across your blog from churchleaders.com. That lead me to pick up “Lasting Impact”, which was awesome. From there I started listening to your podcast. It was such good content I find myself binge listening through a good part of the past year. I think I’ve been through about 25 episodes already. I find your content and perspective particularly helpful because of your context. I’m in New Hampshire (friend and neighbor of Josh Gagnon) in a post Christian culture that I suspect is similar to yours. So I just wanted to thank you for the great teaching that you are making available to church leaders. It has been a real help and encouragement to me.



  35. Taka Iguchi on October 3, 2015 at 11:09 am

    Thanks for all you do for church leaders!



  36. Kirk W. Fraser on September 5, 2015 at 6:12 pm

    Church should be redefined to only apply to Jesus’ Gospel, not First Pope Paul’s. Church will be perfect by 2024 when all of Jesus’ true believers who want pre-trib ascension in Rev 12:5 stand on Jesus’ true church. The First Pope Paul’s prostituted churches will be recognized as simply whores as they are in Rev. 17:5 and destroy themselves by plagues per Rev. 18:4 in 2030 if not earlier. That’s major. The smaller changes converting all the Revelation 2-3 churches to be perfected overcomers will occur within that time.



  37. Sheree Dutton on August 4, 2015 at 1:50 pm

    I feel so bad for you that you are so mislead. We should not be bringing the unchurched to church, but joining them outside the church. The church alienates people, and I am so much healthier since I left. I would like to share my message to the church to stop trying to replace Christ with “church leadership” and fellowship with church programs! So blessed to be free at last, free indeed!



  38. Christine on July 13, 2015 at 10:43 am

    Thank you so much for the refreshing site. Grace is hard to find in most evangelical churches. As a Christian life coach, I have clients from all walks of life and all sexual orientation. They need to know God loves them, and that Christians accept and love them. Being a channel of that grace and the life of Christ within us is indeed “messy” and we don’t always get it right. Truth can’t change, but won’t ever be heard by the Holy Spirit if they don’t have a safe and loving place to hear it. God bless you in your lives as you truly allow Jesus to be who He is through you!!



  39. […] Carey Nieuwhof’s 8 Reasons Most Churches Never Break the 200 Attendance Mark, shares statistics from the Barna Group that the average Protestant church size in America is 89 adults. Sixty percent of Protestant Churches have less than 100 adults attending. Only 2% of churches in America have more than 1000 adults in attendance. The question “why do these small churches not see a growth in attendance if the church leaders are focused on prayer and evangelism” continues to haunt church officials everywhere. […]



  40. Gill Jewell on July 9, 2015 at 7:58 pm

    Hi we are from Ipswich Australia, land of droughts and flooding rains. I have been working in churches for years. I want to thank you for the Church virs state common sense approach to the churches issue re Gay, transgender, lesbian etc. agree with ur direction. My thoughts are based on my experience and understanding of continual revelation . The sexual orientation of a person I believe starts young and is as physically determined as being left or right handed. I am pleased marriage is seen as important to the alternative communities, as God has given it to all. Jesus was able to restore sight to the blind and I have prayed for people and seen amazing physical healing . we don’t believe in this sort of change in the church. my experience of lesbians is there is a proportion due to sexual abuse. A change back to their original orientation i will pray for in my heart and then, if they want that with them. I do not however believe there is anything wrong with homosexual orientations. what is wrong is the centuries of reaction to the diversity of human sexual expression. I choose to live a celibate life, now with my daughter grown and blessed by God. I would however never see this as for everyone, but many find this as your article says a radical place to be. I don’t I experience this currently as a gift and feel comfortable in my own space, my own body. The church can embrace change , inclusion and revolution by not kidding in right wing emotional highs of worship( pentecostals ) or bogged down in doctrine that smacks of moth balls. If I was in your area I would attend ur’ church. God be with you.



  41. Bruce Bowling on July 7, 2015 at 6:25 pm

    Hi Carey, I would like to have either your email address or your church address so I can send you my reply to your article “Some Advice on Same-Sex Marriage for US Church Leaders From a Canadian.” Please advise, thank you.



  42. ray maxwell on July 2, 2015 at 7:22 am

    i have no problem with loving the LGBT community….we all fall short of the glory of god…my issue that I am dealing with is that I feel that homosexuality is a sin….not a bigger sin than any other…a sin is a sin….god hates sin…but love the sinner….I do not feel that most of the people I attend church with feel that homosexuality is a sin…if I do not feel it is a sin…there is no problem with me at all….I just can not get past the fact that the denominational church I belong to will most likely next year approve gay marriages; gay ministers; etc…..at this time I am not planning on leaving this denomination, but the time will come when a LGBT minister stands up in front of me and talks to me about living a sinless life….that is what I disagree with and having struggles….god will provide and god will guide me as he has some many times in the past.



  43. Linda R Smith on July 1, 2015 at 6:24 pm

    How should wedding vendors respond when asked to support a gay marriage with their services? How do we mix grace and truth and love? I have been told (by the gay community) to just say “I’m busy, I’m already booked.” But that may be a lie. Any thoughts?



  44. Debbie Rabourn on July 1, 2015 at 4:40 pm

    Re: Same-Sex marriage response. Thank you so much for your input. I live in Washington State and came across your blog on Facebook. I am sickened by our countries attitudes on either side of the hot issues going on. It is scary, I think we may have a civil war. To hear a sane and sound voice is refreshing. I plan to share with everyone I know. God bless you!



  45. concerned on July 1, 2015 at 9:48 am

    I went to their Church site CONNEXUS and clicked on it. found my way to What we believe . We were satisfied that we share the same beliefs He mentioned the church in his blog , so I think you’ll just need to go back and find it ( hope i spelled it right } God bless you
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  46. Sandra Davis on July 1, 2015 at 8:59 am

    I need a serious question answered Canada and God’s Word! Has it been changed to fit the homosexual life style, at their insistence, and can you be arrested for teaching the truth of God’s complete truth of His Holy Word! We have been told in America this is true! I don’t like to spread lies! Please answer so I will understand the truth about this situation!



  47. Linda Dietz on July 1, 2015 at 8:48 am

    Have just discovered your blog thanks to a friend posting on FB. However, before I allow someone to influence my thinking, I feel it my duty to check out the doctrine of the one I am “following.” I suspect you would agree. Yet, no where do I find a statement of your beliefs. Perhaps I didn’t look in the correct area. I attend a small church in Ohio that teaches verse by verse through the Scripture. This is the first church I have ever attended that challenges me to actually think and to question what I am reading/hearing always with an open Bible at my side. So far, I very much like what I see on your blog.



    • concerned on July 1, 2015 at 9:38 am

      Hi Linda, I was wondering how the pastor came to know the Lord in more detail too. I have posted this on FB because It made sense to me and my husband. I would like the mission statement of his church, just to make sure. My husband and I attend Calvary Bible Church in Temecula California



  48. nowwat on June 30, 2015 at 9:20 pm

    Thanx, This is indeed very helpful & true.
    All glory to our beloved God, Holy Spirit & Savior Jesus Christ. Amen.



  49. paroikos on June 29, 2015 at 12:23 pm

    “Judgment is a terrible evangelism strategy,” and “[s]o love people. Especially the people with whom you disagree.”

    While God’s Word never directs us to confront same-sex practitioners by shrieking out against them, the scriptures _have_ uttered a dire and unambiguous judgment of their aberration (yes—Romans 1:22-32, etc.). Christian practitioners reject this plain condemnation of their sex-style, and have attempted to twist and spin their way out of the texts.

    Consequently, the leading argument of Christian supporters of same-sexing has been: “Judgment is a terrible evangelism strategy”—as if the scriptures don’t exist which ‘disagree’ with them.

    Carey Nieuwhof’s first Four points are well-taken, but the Fifth ignores clear warnings that the sky has, in fact, fallen, and that its havoc is being guarded by evangelical “love” strategists.



  50. […] God after we’ve been church leaders that are struggling to be “just” attenders.  Carey Niewhof has some great resources for helping leaders lead well. They include his blog, podcast and a number […]



  51. Parker on May 16, 2015 at 1:11 pm

    Sorry. Wasn’t looking to be added to a mailing list. The ole bait and switch from the pulpit no less. I clicked to receive the “free book” on reaching the unchurched.



  52. […] to Carey Nieuwhof, Pastor of Connexus Church , near Toronto, Canada, attendance is not the final goal, but is a sign […]