Personal Growth
How Do You Kill The Cynicism Inside You?
Is any part of you growing cynical? I think you know what I mean. I have to: Fight the ‘been there” “done that” and “I can explain that in ten seconds if you let me” tendency that comes with having…
Self-Care or Self-Medication: Which Path Are You On?
I’m beginning to believe that every person and every leader, whether they intend to be or not, is on a path. One path is a conscious choice. The other subconscious. One path is healthy. The other is unhealthy. One path leads…
What Determines Your True Potential? (You Might Be Surprised)
If someone was to ask you, what single factor determines your potential as an effective leader more than any other factor, how would you answer it? For years, I would probably have said the answer is ‘competency’. Competency determines capacity.…
How To Help Your Marriage Survive The Pressure
[tentblogger-vimeo 57805063] How’s your marriage? Really? I’ve been fortunate to be married to my wife Toni for over 22 years. And we’re experiencing more joy and satisfaction in our marriage than we’ve ever had. But we almost didn’t make it.…
5 Signs It’s Time to Move On
So you’re frustrated in your job, ministry or organization. In my last post, I argued that many people leave their jobs for the wrong reasons. In fact, I think many people leave before their critical breakthrough. And I strongly believe…
Jump or Grow: What You Lose When You Keep Switching Jobs
According to Forbes Magazine, the average worker in the marketplace spends 4.4 years in a job. The average millennial spends less than half that at a job, moving on after less than three years. While studies vary, the tenure of senior…
7 New Practices for a Better New Year
My guess is that, like me, you want to accomplish more this year than last year, not less. I think the challenge with New Year’s resolve is that we overfocus on the what and the why, at the expense…
A Simple Filter to Help You Deal With Negative Feedback
If you’re like me, you wince every time you get negative feedback. I’ve gotten better at it over the years, but there’s something inside me and probably inside you that makes your heart sink at least a little every time…
Don't Blame Yourself
In yesterday’s blog post, we looked at the difference between leaders who accept responsibility and leaders who instead blame other people and things for their mistakes. Today I want to focus on a critical mistake many leaders make: in the…
5 Ways to Build Your Integrity
While it can be hard to spot in the early stages, there are at least five signs that show you lack integrity. It’s one thing to know you might lack it in certain areas, but the question is how do you…
5 Signs You Lack Integrity
Integrity is something you desire, but how do you know if you have it? And what exactly is it anyway? Sometimes, it’s easiest to think about something out of its immediate context. When something is well-built, we say it…
The Silence Test
Want to know how you’re really doing? Sit in silence. Sit silently for at least 10 minutes – even an hour if you can handle it. More and more, I’m learning that silence reveals what’s really happening inside me. Whenever…