One of the tensions many of us wrestle with as leaders who are trying to navigate change happens when people tell us:
I want our church to grow. I just don’t want it to change.
Every time I hear or read that, my brain says “Ugh”.
As much as I think that’s a dumb reality to live in, it’s a reality so many of us face in leadership.
How do you respond when people want a church (or organization) to grow, but not change?
Here, Eat This Bacon Cheeseburger
The problem you and your organization are facing is a challenge a lot of us experience in life.
Isn’t wanting to grow but not really change actually like saying “I want to lose weight, but I really want a bacon cheeseburger”? Well, yes, it’s exactly like that.
People hire personal trainers all the time to help them lose weight.
A trainer’s message is not revolutionary.
It is almost never “just take this diet pill and you will magically lose 50 pounds while eating cupcakes.” Yet most of us want to believe that we can take a pill and eat cheeseburgers and cupcakes and lose weight. At least I do.
A good personal trainer’s advice is always some variation of “eat smaller portions, eat healthy foods, exercise and make sure your calorie input is less than your calorie output”.
And people pay them money—lots of money—to tell them what they already know to be true.
You’re not that different as an organizational leader. Really.
Six Things You Can Do
As a leader, don’t try to navigate change in a congregational meeting. You will get stuck in the mud before you know what’s happening. 50 people or 500 people won’t agree on anything. And they will certainly never agree on anything courageous. (I talk more about navigating the dynamics of change in my course, Church Growth Masterclass).
Sit down with your real leadership team—your board, your key staff, or even a new group you form for the purpose—and start the conversation.
As you lead that conversation, here are 6 things you can do to tackle the challenge of leading a group that wants to grow but doesn’t want to change:
1. Tell The Truth
Usually, we hire trainers, coaches, counselors and consultants to tell us the truth we kind can’t see or, often, already know but won’t face.
That’s my job and your job as the leader of an organization: we need to help people see the truth.
So what’s the truth about wanting to grow but not wanting to change?
It’s quite simple. Your patterns, habits, and level of effectiveness as a church got you to where you are now.
If you want your current level of effectiveness, keep doing what you’re doing right now.
If you don’t want your current level of effectiveness, change.
It actually isn’t much more complicated than that.
Sometimes great leadership is simply about pointing out the truth that nobody else wants to talk about.
You need to do this in love, but often our desire to be loving kills our need to be truthful.
So, as a leader, help people see the truth.
2. Plot Trajectory
Learning how to plot trajectory is one of the best skills a leader can bring to the table.
Plotting trajectory is simply mapping out the probable course or path an organization, person or object is on. This is critical because usually, when it comes to people and organizations, we’re not sure where we’re headed.
To plot trajectory, ask two questions:
If we continue doing what we’re doing today, where will we be 1 year, 2 years and 5 years from now?
If we change X, where will we be 1 year, 2 years and 5 years from now?
Sure, you don’t know for sure where you end up, but if you start asking the question, you’ll be amazed at what you discover. Try it.
3. Ban Delusional Talk
Those of us who resist change are often delusional.
I can continue to be rude to my spouse and our marriage will get better.
I can slack off at work and get a better performance review.
I can get abs of steel in a workout that lasts 60 seconds.
Most of us become crazy people when we’re fighting change.
So, as a leader, ban delusional talk around your table.
Call it out. In love, let people see how crazy their thinking really is.
I know you love Southern Gospel music but most of the teens we want to reach don’t.
I realize you love our organization just the way it is, but the average age of our attendees is 65.
I know you think a new building will solve all our problems, but why can’t we solve them in our current half-empty facility?
Don’t let your leaders be delusional.
4. Get an Outside View
Familiarity breeds contempt and distorts perspective. If your team doesn’t immediately respond healthily to a call for change, you might be ripe for an outside voice to help you arrive at a new place.
This would be the perfect time to read a book together, attend a conference, or (best yet), hire a consultant. If the future is at stake, it’s not a bad investment to spend the money on an outside perspective.
5. Offer Constant Feedback
As you move through these conversations, keep people honest. It will be hard. But you need to do this.
Continue to point the group back to the truth. Honestly, gracefully, but truthfully.
Just keep snapping people back to reality.
I say this because it will require herculean effort to ensure you don’t end up hoping for a diet-pill and cupcake solution. There is probably little gain without significant pain.
6. Draw a Line and Call it For What it Is
At some point you have to stop talking and start doing.
Here’s my suggestion. If you’ve been in an honest dialogue for at least a year and are not making progress (that is, you haven’t made a plan for change you are ready to act on), you have come to a moment of truth.
At some point, you just need to tell everyone where you have landed.
So our plan for change is to implement X, Y and Z by this date. Let’s do it!
So essentially we have decided that we will not grow. We are content with the status quo. We will not change. And we will live with the consequences of stagnation, decline and decay.
Guess what? 99% of leaders will never utter the second statement.
And that’s why they’re stuck. That’s why they’re perpetually frustrated.
But that second statement is exactly what you need to say if that’s your reality.
And then—are you ready?—you need to decide whether you want to lead that organization.
This isn’t easy at all, but I do think it can help leaders who feel stuck leading an organization that says it wants to grow but doesn’t want to change.
Did you know that 9 out of 10 churches don’t grow? Are you one of them?
You likely didn’t get into ministry to watch your church plateau or, worse yet, decline. You wanted God to use you to reach new people with the good news. You wanted to see your church grow. You wanted to make an impact on your community that would outlast you.
But the odds are, it’s not happening. And the thing is, you’re not alone. We live in an era where 94% of churches aren’t growing or aren’t growing as fast as their communities. Barely 1 out of 20 churches are effectively reaching their neighbors for Jesus. Despite how desperately our communities need to hear and engage with the good news about Jesus, many churches are lost when it comes to reaching a postmodern culture.
That’s why I put together the Church Growth Masterclass. It’s everything I wish I knew about church growth when I got into ministry more than 20 years ago.
I can’t make a church grow. You can’t make a church grow. Only God can do that. But I believe you can position your church to grow. You can knock down the barriers that keep you from growing. You can eliminate the things that keep your church from growing and implement some strategies that will help you reach far more people. That’s what I’d love to help you do in the Church Growth Masterclass.
In the Church Growth Masterclass I’ll show you:
- The 10 reasons your church isn’t growing
- Why even committed church-goers aren’t attending as often as before
- How to tell if your church leaders are getting burned out
- The five keys to your church better impacting millennials.
- What to do when a church wants to grow … but not change
Over to You
What do you think?
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