Sometimes I think that all of the things God wants for us should come more naturally than they do. But they don’t.
It always surprises me when I read through the classic passage in Galatians on the fruits of the Holy Spirit that self-control is listed in the same sentence as love, joy, patience and kindness. If we’re really relying on God, self-control will factor huge into our walk with Christ.
This article argues that self control is easier when we focus on the overall picture and goal, not the specifics of the moment. For example, instead of thinking how not to eat more cake, think instead about overall health and the goal of eating better. Participants who thought big-picture and long-term exercised more self control. It reminds me of God’s promise to always help us when faced with a self control issue if we would turn to Him (big picture v. small picture).
It also reminded me of one of the parenting principles we teach in Orange: imagine the end. Parents often get stuck in parenting because we get lost in the details of the moment – life is so busy we let our tempers fray and petty things ruin the day, or we’re lose patience because of our daughter’s attitude. When that happens, we lose focus on the overall goal of raising kids who are fully alive in Christ. Self-control in those moments comes more easily If we constantly keep the end in mind. When we keep the end in mind, we’ll focus our parenting on what matters most.
How’s your battle with self-control? Any of these learnings helpful? What do you find helpful?