Posts Tagged ‘conflict’
CNLP Episode 437: Jennifer Kolari on How to Deal with Irrational People, Customers and Team Members, and the Superpower of the CALM Technique
Jennifer Kolari is a sought-after therapist, podcaster, author and consultant who specializes in how to deal with conflict in a way that not only de-escalates tension and deeply conflicted situations, but transforms them. She explains the CALM technique she developed and how to make it a superpower working for you at work and at home.…
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The Power of the Right Kind of Listening for Struggling Spouses
This is a guest post written by Toni Nieuwhof. Toni and Carey Nieuwhof met in law school and have been married for three decades. Toni is the author of Before You Split: Find What You Really Want For The Future Of Your Marriage (available here). By Toni Nieuwhof As a Leader, I’m sure you’ve met people…
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5 Powerful Measures That Help Couples Resist the Gravitational Pull Toward Divorce
This is a guest post written by Toni Nieuwhof. Toni and Carey Nieuwhof met in law school and have been married for three decades. Toni is the author of Before You Split: Find What You Really Want For The Future Of Your Marriage (available for pre-order). You can download her free Better Conflict Cheat Sheet here. You…
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“If I Win, We Lose”: 3 Ways to Handle Your Conflict Better
This is a guest post written by Toni Nieuwhof. Toni and Carey Nieuwhof met in law school and have been married for three decades. Toni is the author of Before You Split: Find What You Really Want For The Future Of Your Marriage (available for pre-order). You can download her free Better Conflict Cheat Sheet here.…
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Pastors, Here’s Why Everyone’s So Mad at You Right Now
You might be asking yourself as a church leader, why does everyone seem so angry with me right now? You’re not alone. As pastor appreciation month fades into the rearview mirror, despite getting a few chocolates and a handful of thank you cards (or nothing…that’s happened before too), many church leaders I talk to…
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When Christians Lose Their Minds, People Lose Their Faith
If your social feed is like mine, it looks like people are losing their minds. Christians too. As the world has become more fragile than it has been in my lifetime, my feed has gotten more and more polarized, partisan, angry, bizarre and downright weird in 2021. I wish I could tell you Christians were…
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3 Rules For Keeping Conflict Low and Passion High At Work
So you want to keep conflict low and passion high at work. How do you do it? Great question, and apparently a needed one. Gallup says 70% of Americans remain disengaged at work (aka they’re phoning it in). And, curiously, 37% of all job applications are put in on Tuesday, which likely means after giving…
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5 Things Younger Leaders Can’t Stand About Older Leaders
As you may have noticed, there’s a bit of tension in the workplace and in culture these days. Younger leaders are complaining (a lot) about older leaders (who are often their bosses). Older leaders are complaining (a lot) about younger leaders. The ‘Okay, Boomer’ moment happening in our culture right now is just the tip…
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4 Big Signs It’s Not Going To Turn Around
How do you know whether whatever you’re leading is going to turn around? That’s a great question. So many leaders I know are trying to turn their organization around. Sometimes that means moving a stuck or declining organization into growth. Other times it means that while they have momentum, they sense they’re losing it and…
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How To Handle Your Critics Like a Pro, Not a Toddler
So you signed up for leadership, but you didn’t really sign up for all the criticism that came with it, did you? And yet here you are. Next question: did anything really prepare you for the emotional journey of leadership? Nope. Me neither. Criticism is an almost daily staple for most leaders. You get everything…
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