It’s one thing to value small groups. But what if your church culture works against the very thing you’re trying to accomplish?

This week I’m excited to be speaking at the Orange Conference in Atlanta Georgia.

As a way of serving those who attend my talks I’ll be posting the outline to each session here on the blog.

Even if you don’t attend the conference, I hope you can glean a few insights from them that might help you lead better now.  And if you’re in the session, you won’t have to guess what that pesky blank you forgot to fill in was all about.

This talk is based on a brand new book, Creating a Lead Small Culture by Reggie Joiner, Kristen Ivy and Elle Campbell. It’s a must-buy, and the ideas below are completely fleshed out in the book. 

So here’s the outline for my talk on how to creates a lead small culture at your church.


Creating a Lead Small Culture

Give them a (a kid) someone

Give them a (a kid) somewhere

Starting acting like you believe





Belief 1:The quality of your relationships is linked to the quality of your structure.

Behaviour #1:Improve the structure.

Habit One: Organize to be more organic.

 Habit Two: Think steps not programs.

 Habit Three: Move to the Rhythm.



 Belief 2:  The scope of your influence is determined by the success of your leaders.

 Behaviour #2:Empower the Leader

Habit One:Expect More Not Less

Habit Two:Play Favourites

Habit Three:Win before you begin.


Belief 3:The truth of your message is amplified by the depth of your relationships.

Behaviour #3: Create the Experience

Habit One: Have Imaginary Conversations

Habit Two:Control the Climate

Habit Three:Measure what Seems Immeasurable

For further Information:

Creating a Lead Small Culture by Reggie Joiner, Kristen Ivy and Elle Campbell

Lead Small by Reggie Joiner and Tom Shefchunas

Parenting Beyond Your Capacity by Reggie Joiner and Carey Nieuwhof

Think Orange by Reggie Joiner

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  1. FBLJORDAN on July 21, 2014 at 2:13 pm

    Carey, I am going to communicate your points from OC14 breakout at a mini conference for my volunteers in a few weeks. Do my small group leaders need to know that I am “playing favorites”… sorry… favourites. 🙂

    • Carey Nieuwhof on July 27, 2014 at 8:41 pm

      Hope this isn’t too late. But I would gently let them know that leaders who take on more responsibility get more time. Plain and simple. I think people intuitively understand that. So I would maybe frame it that way. The other way is to flip it and tell them to play favourites…to spend the most time with the kid who show the greatest response, greatest potential and/or greatest need.

      Hope this helps!

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