#10: Blaming Others for Your Failings
One of the most memorable talks I ever heard at Willow Creek’s leadership summit was some guy whose name I can’t remember (yes, I hear the irony — but kudos to anyone who remembers who it was) who said there are only four levels people live at:
God created us to build, he said. Build families. Build value. Build into people. Build lives. Build the Kingdom.
When we aren’t building, we’re managing what we built. Not bad, but only for a short time until we are again building.
If we’re not building or managing, then we’re justifying why we’re not doing what we’re supposed to be doing (under these circumstances, you wouldn’t really expect anyone to….). Such is the stuff for lesser people.
And below it all is blaming. (If it wasn’t for that mega church down the street….if I only had a better congregation…if he hadn’t gotten involved.) Blame is ugly. Filthy.
As a leader I have to catch myself all the time from making excuses or blaming others. If I stop justifying and blaming, it means I need to do the most difficult thing of all — face my shortcomings. My failings are really my fault. And when I own that, guess what? God gives me the grace to build again.