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If Your Friends Could Preach….

So as a companion to last week’s post about what you would choose to be the next message series, here’s a fresh angle.

In your conversations with your friends who don’t attend church, what subjects keep coming up?  What might be a subject that help move them from disinterested to curious to even maybe trying a weekend service?

Anything’s game.  Have some conversations and report back.  Or offer some thoughts from recent conversations.  As we plan the 09 preaching schedule, I’m all ears.

What are your friends thinking about?


  1. M.W. Smith on October 23, 2008 at 9:25 pm

    I am around kids the most so my insight comes from a little girl that I had a conversation with this week.

    She said, "God forgives but he never forgets. Because he's God, right?"

    She believed that God was merciful and that God loves her. She desired to talk to God and ask for forgiveness but did not have the confidence that God really "forgives and forgets".

    It made me wonder how many people think God keeps a list. And how many let that list hold them hostage from the freedom God promises to us.

  2. Shawn on October 23, 2008 at 7:44 am

    A couple of days ago I had a conversation with a colleague who was outraged over the recent changes to the Sesame Street characters, and more specifically the addition of a character named Noak who had an ark. He felt that the producers of the show were "shoving religion down his throat." Since I am, in his words 'religious' he was interested in my opinion.

    What was really cool was Sesame Street was the launchpad to an hour log conversation that got into spiritual matters and God's desire to have a relationship with us.

  3. Linda on October 22, 2008 at 9:21 pm

    As someone who is the "friend" that hadn't attended church before, I have either felt or heard all the comments that have been made so far: religion as a money maker; different denominations (which I still don't get); the Bible being a myth; too much evil/good in the world; the similarities of holidays to pagans; and even that religion/church is just another type of cult.

    I think the main thing that keeps me coming back and wanting to learn more (and probably drew me to church in the beginning), is knowing that something has always been missing in my life. And I'm just trying to figure out what that is.

  4. Nancy MacLachlan on October 22, 2008 at 6:01 pm

    Some of the comments I have heard from the friends of my daughters' (teens)sound something like this. Is the church really a conspiracy, a way to control and manipulate people. They refer to some of the explanations out there on the net that Christianity is just a remake of earlier pagan type beliefs/ eg. sun worship etc.
    Why are there so many different kinds of churches? Why should I get involved with an organization that can't even agree on how to be?
    Just a couple of the comments I have heard lately over the past year.

  5. Pat on October 22, 2008 at 11:02 am

    As I read Joey's comment about "Why is there no evil in the world," a different question popped into my head:

    "Why isn't there more good in the world?"

  6. Jen on October 22, 2008 at 9:18 am

    Well, I just finished reading "The Shack" and a book like that would help with the whole Trinity thing. I thought the book was amazing and so well written. It was definitely a 'can't put it down' book for me. In fact, it would help clear up a few questions (why does God let bad things happen, etc) in a fictional way. One of the quotes from the book was God doesn't punish for sin, sin is its own punishment. I personally thought that was eye opening.

    As far as money goes, that's a tough one for some but such an easy one for me. I'm a firm believer in believing in the WHOLE book and not just the parts that sound good to me and some of that is tithing. Yes, church is an organization and no company can run without money. But that is so far from the truth as to what a church (a good one like Connexus!) :o) really wants! We want you to be saved and nothing more would please us. If we never got a dime of your money but Jesus got your heart, that couldn't make us happier and feel more accomplished! But be forewarned, when He does get your heart you'll WANT to give more to the church! lol

  7. Joey on October 22, 2008 at 8:09 am

    Many of my secular friends struggle with variations of this issue:

    Why does so much evil happen in the world and often to good people? Where is God is in this? Is he powerless? Disinterested and uncaring? Or worse still, does he will (or support) this as some kind of divine punishment?

  8. Carey Nieuwhof on October 22, 2008 at 8:03 am

    Hey Laurie…Great raw data and thoughts. There's a cynicism and suspicion under each of those comments, isn't there? Man, just makes me want to repent and wish we could get out of the way.

    What do people think would help overcome the kind of suspicion Laurie's friends have to the church.

    What are other things your friends are saying?

    Thanks again Laurie. Good starting place.

  9. Laurie McNair on October 21, 2008 at 9:47 pm

    Here are some of the comments that I have had recently from friends who don't attend church

    – what is all this Jesus stuff really & how does a guy that lived 2000 years ago have any relevancy (or even compare) to my life right now.
    -can't comprehend the trinity–God/Jesus/Holy Spirit as one but seperate?
    -Christians are the most judgemental people out there…why would I want to join something like that
    -the church in just like every other corporation, they just want my money
    -why do we celebrate Christmas in Dec? Is that really when Jesus was born or is that made up to align with some other ritual of the day in order to get people interested
    -why is there so many different denominations & how do I know which one is the true church
    -what does worshiping God mean; will I have to "attend a church" to be a true believer

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