I’ve said it. You might have said it too.
Leadership is lonely.
For all my time since graduating university, I’ve been a senior leader. It sounds more glamourous than it is.
When I started, all three churches I served had a total attendance of less than 50 people; I was the senior leader because I was the only paid leader. But as our ministry has grown, I’m leading more people than I’ve ever led. And with over a dozen staff and 1500 people who call our church home, I find myself something thinking that leadership is lonely.
Ever said these things as a leader?
Nobody understand what this leadership load is like.
People don’t really care how I feel.
It’s lonely at the top.
Leadership is just lonely.
I have. And I began to accept loneliness as part of the job.
Sure, I know I things happened along the way:
Early on in ministry I got ‘peopled out’ – I got worn down by the constant demands on my time.
My time in leadership has actually seen me move from a moderate extrovert to a moderate introvert in my personality type.
I’ve also begun to realize that being lonely is a terrible way to live.
Sure, we come by it honestly.
Doing things alone is part of our culture. Ever think through High Occupancy Vehicle lanes?
Two people in a car passes as ‘high occupancy’ in our culture. Over 9 out of 10 people drive alone!!
People might live that way.
But you don’t have to lead that way.