It’s kind of a strange question, isn’t it?
You might have been longing for a fresh start in some area of your life for a while, like in your:
But here’s the weird part.
Many leaders I know are really hard on themselves.
The grace we readily extend to others is grace we rarely extend to ourselves.
And that shouldn’t be. In fact, it can be crippling.
Here’s what’s true:
Most of us long for people to do the right thing.
Most of us resist the change needed within ourselves to do the right (or better) thing.
Because we use what we’ve done wrong to condemn ourselves and convince ourselves that a new beginning isn’t possible.
We only think about what didn’t happen, rather than celebrate what did happen.
We focus on our shortcomings, not our potential.
We write ourselves off.
We focus on what we missed, not what we hit.
Don’t get me wrong – our mistakes provide valuable lessons. But they only serve to paralyze us unless used to propel us into a better, wiser future.
Tell me if this isn’t true:
Confession without repentance leads to self-pity.
Confession without confidence in God’s belief in your potential leads to despair.
So many people get stuck there, and some never make it out.
So today a simple, ask yourself:
Why won’t you just make the change you need to make and accept a fresh start?
Why don’t you just give yourself the fresh start you long to see others claim?
God is willing to give you a fresh start. I mean you know that. You preach that stuff, don’t you? And you believe it. If God isn’t about new beginnings, then what exactly is He about?
Other people are longing to give you a fresh start. You know this because there’s hardly a day that goes by where you don’t think “Why doesn’t he…” or “I really wish she would just…”. And you know that if they actually did bring about the change you’re longing to see in them, you’d be the first to celebrate. Not condemn. Not say I told you so. But just celebrate. You’d be leading the cheer.
So why do you hesitate to give yourself that same fresh start?
Here are three practical ways to get started:
Stop dwelling on what went wrong. Learn from it. And shift your focus to what could go right.
Trust that God has forgiven you. Note to file. Sometimes the things you refuse to forgive yourself over aren’t even sinful. Just move on. And if it is truly sinful, isn’t that what Jesus covered?
Allow yourself to stumble while you keep your eye on the future. I’ve never met a parent who doesn’t celebrate like crazy when a toddler is learning to take his first steps. No parent criticizes him when he stumbles and inevitably falls down. Because the parent knows what’s coming. And their child just got ten steps closer to it. What if God sees you this way?
So today…give yourself the fresh start you are oh so willing to give others.
Others are ready to extend it to you.
So is your Heavenly Father.
So why are you holding back?