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CNLP 007: Delayed Adolescence: Why So Many Young Adults Fail to Thrive—An Interview with Ted Cunningham

Well into their twenties, or even thirties, many young adults are still reliant on their parents for financial help and increasingly postpone things like marriage, responsibility and their future.

Delayed adolescence is a growing issue for parents, leaders as well as for young adults themselves. In this episode, Ted Cunningham explains why it’s happening and what to do about it.

If you want to do a better job as a parent, manager or employer, or you want some more insight and independence as a young leader, this is a don’t miss interview.

AND….this week, I’m launching the first contest for this podcast. Scroll all the way to the bottom to enter to win a free copy of my book, Parenting Beyond Your Capacity and be entered to win the grand prize—admission to the Orange Conference 2015, and coffee with me and Jon Acuff.

Welcome to Episode 7 of the podcast.


Guest Links: Ted Cunningham

Ted Cunningham is an author, a speaker and the pastor of Woodland Hills in Branson, Missouri. During our conversation, Ted provides fascinating insights to church leaders and parents about how to ensure kids grow up ready to enter life, and for young leaders about how to take on more responsibility than their peers might be ready to embrace.

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Woodland Hills Church

Links Mentioned in This Episode

The links and resources mentioned in this episode include:

CNLP 002: How Perry Noble Hit Bottom While Pastoring One of America’s Largest Churches & How He Battled Back

CNLP 004: Why Young Adults Are Walking Away from the Church & What You Can Do About It—An Interview with Kara Powell

CNLP 005: When Leadership Ruins Your Family: How to Live and Lead Differently—An Interview with Craig Jutila

Fun Loving You: Enjoying Your Marriage in the Midst of the Grind by Ted Cunningham

Young and In Love: Challenge the Unnecessary Delay of Marriage by Ted Cunningham

Trophy Child: Saving Parents from Performance, Preparing Children for Something Greater Than Themselves by Ted Cunningham

Dr. Gary Smalley

The Language of Sex: Experiencing the Beauty of Sexual Intimacy by Dr. Gary Smalley and Ted Cunningham

From Anger to Intimacy: How Forgiveness Can Transform Your Marriage by Dr. Gary Smalley and Ted Cunningham

Great Parents, Lousy Lovers: Discover How to Enjoy Life with Your Spouse While Raising Kids by Dr. Gary Smalley and Ted Cunningham

As Long As We Both Shall Live: Experience the Marriage You’ve Always Wanted by Dr. Gary Smalley and Ted Cunningham

Radical: Taking Back Your Faith from the American Dream by David Platt

Sacred Marriage: Celebrating Marriage as a Spiritual Discipline by Gary Thomas

Why “Just Turn Down His Microphone” is A (Really) Bad Leadership Strategy

3 Things You Can Do Right Away

Ted says that many millennials are enthusiastic about taking on new responsibilities. They just need to be led into the right direction. Here are 3 things you can start doing now to guide today’s generation of leaders. 

1. Examine their ties. Talk to young adults about who they’re still tied to, and then have the hard conversations. Are their parents still paying their rent, their phone bill, their insurance? Talk to them about what they need to do to absorb that responsibility for themselves.

2. Enable them to make their own decisions. A millennial may ask, “What do you think?” Turn it around on them and ask, “I don’t know. What do YOU think?” Let them work their way through the problem to find a solution.

3. If you’re a young leader…assume more responsibility. Challenge what your parents or boss thinks you’re capable of and take on more responsibility sooner.

And if you’re a young leader….

Quotes to Share from Ted

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Next Episode: Rich Birch

Next week, we’ll talk to Rich Birch, who writes a blog at, and isn’t afraid of asking the tough questions.

Are contemporary churches really that contemporary anymore, or are we fooling ourselves? Rich, one of the most forward looking church leaders around today, looks at the rapid cultural changes happening in North America and talks about how church leaders can do a better job of advancing the mission of the church as we move into the future.

That’s next Tuesday on the podcast.

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Win a prize every week with our first ever listener contest! When you enter by leaving a comment in the show notes of the blog, it’s also your ballot to win the grand prize. This week’s prize is an autographed copy of Parenting Beyond Your Capacity.

The grand prize, which will be drawn a few weeks from now, is a free ticket to The Orange Conference 2015 in Atlanta in April of next year. Not only does it get you in for free, but you get a coffee with me and Jon Acuff backstage!

We are selecting the grand prize winner from all of the comments shared over the next few weeks so you can enter multiple times by participating each week. And each week one person will win the book of the week.

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