I was hanging out with a friend recently working on what he and I believe is a really important ministry initiative. We both believe it could change lives in powerful ways.
But as our meeting moved on he got a text from his wife. Then another. He stepped out to take a call from her. He came back to our meeting an announced to me and the other leader that he needed to go home.
Naturally we said that was great and he went home to simply be a husband and a dad for a few hours before coming back to the project we were working on a few hours later.
Then it hit me: our work doesn’t really impress our wives.
Don’t get me wrong. His wife (and mine) love the ministries we’re involved in. They pray, support, give and care passionately about it.
But there’s something deeper at work her. I have spent too many years coming home hoping to impress my wife with what I have accomplished. She’s always excited to hear about it. She’s genuinely excited for it.
But as a guy I’m tempted to settle for her just being proud of me, as though that was the purpose of our marriage. There needs to come a point for those of us who love what we do and think about it 24/7 to put it all aside and do what God has called us to do: be there, love her, love the kids and be available.
For a guy, there isn’t the immediate reward in those things that we might find in an increase in ministry, in solving a personnel issue or preaching a message that people can’t stop talking about. It’s more difficult to sit on the couch and be fully present. But in the long run, it’s so much more rewarding. To miss at home while hitting home runs at work is to ultimately miss what matters most.
As a husband, I have to remind myself that wife isnt nearly as impressed with my work as I might be.
And that’s actually a good thing.