Comments on: The Slow Death of Selfish Ambition

By: Kurt

Kurt — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 21:31:35 +0000

Thanks for this post. I’ve been struggling with this issue lately. It does seem when you just let go and lay your desires on the altar, its a win/win. God wants to give us our desires but in a much better and healthier form than what you had in mind. I’ve had this happen to me recently. The key is to seek God first, not your desires. I have to be continually reminded of this truth however because the world will surely twist your thinking in this area.

By: Carey

Carey — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 01:01:36 +0000

An amazing bit of trivia…almost all the great leaders I know have at one time or another seen a counselor. Maybe that’s why they’ve been able to transcend what holds most of the rest of us captive. Intriguing….

By: Shef

Shef — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 22:01:07 +0000

Great stuff….

I love that you share that you have seen a counselor. I think everyone needs counseling at some point.

I lean hard into authentic community (guys specifically) and a wife that will set me straight! She sees it before anyone and I can read it in her right away.

Thanks man.

By: Carey

Carey — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 14:08:08 +0000

Hey Shef,

Thanks. That’s a great question. For me, it’s just a lot of self reflection, motive checking and prayer. I think knowing yourself is huge. I also have a handful of people I track with really closely that I can talk to about these things.

I’ve seen a counselor at different points in the past which has helped a lot. Been a few years now but some of the lessons I pulled from them have helped a bunch.

I think subconsciously I use the 12 points I put in the blog post as a personal motive test. I know in my heart why I’m doing it. The more honest I can be with myself, the more God can get the room he desires in my life.

Finally, it’s an ongoing struggle. The impulse to be selfish has never left me. So I just need to be aware that this will always be a struggle.

As someone once said, most of us can handle failure, but a real test in character is how you handle success. As God brings more and more our way, I have to be very intentional about yielding this daily.

What have you found helpful?

Carey

By: Selfish Ambition | Coach Shef

Selfish Ambition | Coach Shef — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 14:00:25 +0000

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By: Shef

Shef — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 13:36:30 +0000

Love this Carey…good stuff. Let me ask you this…How are you keeping selfish ambition and Godly ambition straight?

BTW…you were great at “that major church conference”

By: julie cohrs

julie cohrs — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 02:49:55 +0000

When you are motivated by selfish ambition, you are hurt by those who misunderstand you. When you are motivated by God, there is great strength and peace in knowing the truth of who you have been created even when you are misuderstood.

By: sarah Bragg

sarah Bragg — Sun, 17 Jan 2010 19:34:13 +0000

thank you. what a timely reminder for me!